How can i stop being afraid?

Question

of opening up and becoming close to my boyfriend? im so afraid that im going to go to him for EVERYTHING and in turn ditch my friends. my previous serious relationship my boyfriend was also my bestfriend. and it was the two of us, then whenever we broke up i was so lost. i didnt know what to do, who to talk to or anything. and i dont want to be like that with my boyfriend now because the pain was horrible. im just not sure how to get close to him but not too close to where i go to him for everything and he becomes my entire world. can you help me?

Answer 1

thats a hard thing to do, not to get too attached and to be attached enough to let him know that you like him. i think a 50/50 spread of your time would be fair, both to your friends and your bf, and sometimes hangout with both at the same time.. movies,, maybe mall or something

Answer 2

It kinda seems like you're answering your own question, Becca.  You are about to repeat the same mistake you made last time if you don't learn from it.  You KNOW this isn't healthy.  Contact people that you know need a friend or someone to talk to and actively take an interest in others.

Answer 3

When you find the real answer, you will have solved one of life's mysteries.  

If you give full love then you run the risk of full pain if you break up.  But without giving full love you will never receive full love.  It is a Catch 22.  You cannot get love without giving it in kind.  

I hold it true, whate'er befall;

I feel it, when I sorrow most;

'Tis better to have loved and lost

Than never to have loved at all.

        -Alfred Lord Tennyson

Answer 4

You can be there for him which is a good start and tell him things u feel like u r really ready to tell him if he loves you he won't judge you or anything. You could also work out a little plan or kinda schedules where u can be with him maybe a couple days per week and maybe weekends or both and see how that works out. Also, make sure that u call your friends often at least once a week and u should be fine. you can also plan some time where you just have a night out with your girls because space is a good thing but not overly too much space where he thinks something might be up. so as long as u plan and do that it should be ok, Never be afraid to ask questions either do not keep things a mystery!!! i hope this helps you.

Answer 5

The thing about a relationship is that two different people come together and appreciate the differences of the other.  That's hard to do when you spend every moment together and do everything together.  Friends are a very important part of what keeps you unique.  Do this:  Force yourself to set aside at least one night a week to go out with your friends.  Go dancing, or rent a romantic comedy and bake cookies, or have brunch.  Anything that gets you together with your friends and you can share.  Oh, and of course, do this without your boyfriend.  As for your boyfriend, he can go out with his buddies once a week for a beer or whatever.  Just don't forget that you need friends to keep you grounded and to be there whenever your boyfriend acts the fool.

Answer 6

Everything has a purpose in life.  It is when we try to multipurpose 1 source we can get into trouble.  Being joined at the hip with any 1 person is never good.  What you enjoy doing with friends is different from the things you like doing with bf or gf so keep it that way.  Your boyfriend does not want to know your every thought so tell him only that which concerns and effects your relationship cause I bet that's what he will do.