How can i stop being so immature?? im almost 20 yrs old

Question

im a 19 yr old girl going on 20 this year and i see that im not mature enough in many ways,i have the mind of 15 year old,i act like a younger person, i realise about this because of what people tell me and i just know it,when im around people my age or a little younger, i see that im not like them, or whatever,i act too immature and it annoys me,i've spent my whole life being like under my family's care and i always had them there for whatever i wanted,i mean, my family has treated me like a person with disability,and i got used to it, so now im having troubles facing the world and some emotions i cant handle.

seems like i cant stand up for myself,i have also certain degree of irresponsabilty too,im clumsy,dumb,stupid,idioticed, everyone keeps telling me to grow the h**l up,what happened to me, wnhy am i like this? what can i do??

Answer 1

The only thing to advise here is to speak to a medical professional or counselor about the way you are feeling and seek ways to become more independent. It seem from what you have written that you are very intelligent, you just need a little help in putting it across that way.

If you don't get proper help you will go into self destruct and be so down on yourself and risk falling into depression.

Please seek proper help

P xxxx

Answer 2

I had the same thing happen to me growing up.  I have a "high functioning" form of autism called, "Aspergers Syndrome".  Though it took me a very long and hard journey, I did arrive.  And I will cut to the chase as to what I found growing up, it might help with your situation.

I came from a large family 5 boys, 1 girl, my sister was severely mentally retarded, and I was picked on like my sister, for being very different, like: clumsy, picky,, semingly never paying attention...  I soon realized in a sense I was all those things, but in addition very smart; smarter than my brothers and parents on I.Q. testing and reading abilities.

When I was fifteen, I had come to the conclusion that my family environment was toxic, and I had stuff I wanted to do, but was being held back.  So I became emancipated by the courts at sixteen, finishing high school, and enlisting in the ARMY I became a Combat Medic.  Others in my unit didn't have any problem with me, because I was real good at it.  BUT--I don't recomend doing what I did, it cost me allot of lost family time I can never get back.

My impression is that everybody has something that they're good at--you too.  And maybe the critisism you're getting from others is not helping but hurting--holding you back.

Don't let "Ney-sayers" hold you back.  I bet when you're doing what you like you get pretty involved.  Find what your passionate about, and jump into it without looking back or accepting negative critique.

Nobody but truly disabled people should be treated as if they are disabled, it only holds you back.