How can i stop comparing myself to my twin sister?

Question

I am almost 15 years old. I have a fraternal twin sister. Shes a little taller, shes very curvy, shes got beautiful hair that she can wear curly and straight, she has a beautiful face and eyes, and looks like a 20 year old. I'm the same age but I'm a little shorter, I'm really skinny, i have thin hair that i cant do anything with, and i have dark gray eyes and an ok face, and i look my age or maybe 1 year older. I'm constantly being compared to her. She is is so beautiful and guys are always staring at her and talking to her, the guys LOVE her, she gets alot of attention. And i get zero attention from guys, they never seem to like me. Don't get me wrong, i love her as a sister but it really hurts to see her getting all this attention from guys, and me just sitting there wondering what its like, wishing that at least ONE guy would talk to me or take interest in me.

Every guy would choose my sister over me. All i hear all the time is guys talking about my sister, how hot she is, how beautiful, how they want to go out with her, or do other things(inappropriate) Guys dont even look at me in the hallway.

Im just so tired of having to be compared to her. It seems guys only like girls that are curvy. I cant help it that im so skinny, i just am.

Its just the worst feeling ever having a sister like that thats so much more beautiful and built so womanly.

I need help to stop comparing myself to her..and i really try but its so hard.

Answer 1

Whenever you start comparing yourself to her, catch yourself.  Get your mind on something else.

  and, by the way, you sound pretty.  The only reason you probably don't get much attention is because she IS your sister.  You're naturally compared to each other.  that's why I like having a brother.

Answer 2

Develop your own personality, and try to set yourself apart from her.

Answer 3

I know how you feel, because I have a little sister, who is the outgoing and attractive sister. Well don't worry though, you will find someone who will love you and your looks, not your sister.

My sister is unhappy because she can't hold a long term relationship, yours probably wouldn't be able to either. I have been in a long and serious relationship, which is what you will probably get.

All I can say is, I know how you feel, but I'm sure you're very beautiful, you just need to be confident.

And is the attention from a bunch of different guys, who don't care about you as a person but only if they can get in your pants, what you really want? You need to want attention from people talking about you as a person, and not a piece of meat.

Answer 4

Your guy will come along soon...just be patient.  Better to have quality than quantity.  Stop comparing yourself to your sister...you sound very attractive from your comparison..I'd be interested in seeing a pic of you....I'll bet you your hard on yourself.

Answer 5

you're not ddone developing yet. and from the sound of it you sound like a really cool chick. like what the others said, just be confident, it makes a woman s**y.

Answer 6

you're just 14. You'll curve up in a year or two, don't worry about it.

Answer 7

You have to get confidence. I know its hard i have confidence problems myself. If you think guys don't like you because your skinny your wrong but try wearing some baby doll shirts for that bigger illusion  

Answer 8

This sounds exactly what i experienced a few months ago with my older sister. Your sister may be beautiful, and get attention, but you are too. Everyone is beautiful in there own ways, your sister has her beauty, you have yours too! Its hard to stop comparing yourself, i use to do it all the time. You need to find the good things about yourself!

With the guys issue you talked about, it just might not be the right time. Guys come and go, and one day you might find someone who loves you just the way you are. Give it some time.

I hoped i helped you, and good luck!

Answer 9

You need to stop comparing yourself and find your own style. Get involved with something you are interested in (like sports, music, dance, etc) and get really good at it. Instead of finding ways your sister is 'better' than you, find ways to make yourself shine. Your natural beauty will show when you have confidence in yourself.

Answer 10

you will find someone eventually for you just being you!. it might take longer but when you do, it wil be worth the wait!