How can i stop comparing myself to others?

Question

i lack confidence and always see the bad things about myself, it really affects my relationship with other people

Answer 1

you have to learn to love and accept yourself.

Answer 2

I'm not a real psychologist, but I have a lot of pals like you, and this is what I seem to keep telling them...

You need to remember that everybody's got that deep, hidden self resentment just like you do. What you see, and fail to try and look past due to the constant worrying about yourself alone, is the exterior of people; a simple and mere example of what that person is, and how they live, act, and feel. Point being, it isn't only you who feels like a barrel of dog **** sometimes; everyone feels it, it's just harder to read it on other people.

I'm not saying look for the faults in everyone, but I'm merely saying, just remind yourself that you're not alone. Despite how perfect people look, they aren't, and even the prettiest, kindest, best people in the world can say that. Ultimately, no one is fully happy with themselves, and it's in human nature to strive for more. So what you feel is natural. But it isn't a good feeling, and anything that doesn't feel good can be resolved with mere thinking. Just think about it all; other people and the flaws they hide. It might make you feel like an equal.

Answer 3

look as a friend i will advise you to stop losing your heart.Al way think that the thing you are doing is right always hear the voice of your heart  

Answer 4

love yourself so its possible to

truly love others...concentrate on your strengths instead of dwelling on your weaknesses. and always remember,

the grass may be greener on the other side

but it still has to be mowed.

Answer 5

Take out a piece of paper and write down all of the good things about yourself and what you like about yourself. Maybe you are a good artist, you're patient, whatever. Also write down a list of things you are grateful for, for example having a supportive family, having enough money to eat, whatever. The trick is that you must believe each point you write down. Don't write down something just because someone else said that about you.  

Answer 6

get a mirror, and look at yourself. identify one thing you like about yourself, and elaborate upon it. then move on to something else. it is pivotal to be honest with yourself, so this means that you also have to see what you dont like about yourself, and why.

Answer 7

develop what you need to develop. or try to have the personality that person your comparing yourself have.