How can i stop hating myself?

Question

i hate myself because of my best friend.

She is so much better than me and always puts me down saying bad things about me, she doesnt say it directly but suggests it.

She is a really horrible person but our dads our best mates so i always have to be with her. She makes you fell shallow and is two faced and rude yet she gets everything ever, good family, good looks, money, friends its not fair!!

im jealous of her but i cant help it, its just no fair how can a bad person get such good things, she gets everything i want but treats people horrilbe and only cares about herself.

She also gets boys but treats them badly and all my friends like her alot too but behind her back feel they talk about her.

I cant wait to grow up and never see her again, please help me stop hating myself for her.

She makes me feel sucidal.

please help

Answer 1

Go see a conciler, they can help. But if you dont want them to help then just confront her about it, talk to your parents, glam yourself up abit so people think better of you than her maybe (: Try something really dramatic like dying your hair or something, usually gets peoples attention. x

Answer 2

You need a new best friend.  

Answer 3

Tell your family that you do not want to be around her and stay away from her.  No person can handle someone putting them down constantly.  

Do you know Jesus?  Jesus says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and He loves you very much.  The Bible says, that if God is for us, who can be against us?  The Lord will lift your spirits and His Word will teach you how to deal with all people.  Jealousy is a green eyed monster and you need to be thankful that she has a good family, good looks, money, friends and ask the Lord to continually bless her.  God will deal with her if her heart is not right toward you.  You deal with your own heart and your own relationship with the Lord.

Have a blessed day!

Answer 4

Hello , it is possible that she envy's you and is jealous of you, people who meet nice and good people often attack them not directly, but by trying to undermine them by getting into there minds there friends and family, it is this other person who is shallow and insensitive , you obviously are a kind and intelligent person and need not beat yourself up because of her.

Answer 5

if you have ever seen bad boys do what marques does rub your ear lobes and count to 10. Also  don't commit suicide . Other people might care about you too. Dont talk to her any more and try to ignore her. SHE IS A STUPID DUMB LOSER.

Answer 6

In time you will find out you are worth ten of her, don't be jealous feel sorry for her because these people are never as happy with there life as you think, any friends she makes will be false like she is now and will not stay for the long haul, as you will make the real and true friends, think hard she is probably jealous of you in some way, if you can't speak to her about her behaviour then maybe you could talk to a member of your family, your mum, sister, aunt or a friend you trust but don't keep it inside, it hurts now but I promise it will pass and you will find true friends but try to look at why she does or says these things, if she was truly happy she would not be this way, deep down she is unhappy in someway or at best just spoiled and she will grow out of it.

Patricia

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Take care you are a special person no matter what anyone says.

Answer 7

There are many people out there with low self esteem and the only way they can feel better about themselves is by making others feel bad. Honestly she is probably jealous of you and makes herself feel better about it by trying to focus and point out anything negative about you that she can. I would suggest talking to your Dad about all of this, let him know how she makes you feel and that you would rather not have to spend time with her. If the 2 of you really are friends maybe you can talk to her and let her know what she does and how it makes you feel (I'd only do this if you think she will respond well to it).

Answer 8

How can she be so much better than you if she's such a horrible person and makes you feel like c**p?

There's something wrong here.

It sounds as if you feel put down by her and you believe it.

Just because your father is her dad's best friend doesn't make it mandatory that you accept her c**p.

Life is definitely not fair; that's why you have to work on yourself so that you can even things up. Stopping beating yourself up on her account would be a good start. Not comparing yourself to her unfavourably is another thing you can do.

Your best friend is someone who you seem to hate. Why would you compare yourself with someone who you can't wait to get rid of? That simply doesn't make any sense.

  You feel suicidal because of someone who treats others like dirt.

   I would do everything in my power to stay alive and simply NOT be like her. You are making yourself miserable over someone you can't respect. That's a shame.

   Maybe you can get some prof. help, as you appear to have some serious self-esteem issues.

   Just worry about yourself and what you can do to get some serenity and happiness. Good luck.=)

Answer 9

Make yourself a better person than her. Be ambitious, helpful, kind, and successful. Work, learn, become a better person, the kind you'd want to be friends with.

Just think, she's spoiled, she'll grow up that way, she may even become rotten and ugly, no one will like her, she'll be poor, stupid, etc. Looks aren't that hard to achieve when you're older anyways. It's just make up and weight loss.

How old are you? 10? 13? Who cares. Only you can make rude people like her not upset you. Be strong, and good luck.

You'll look back at this age and laugh later, it's fine. Don't lose your head now.

Answer 10

You need to do something that is completelt independent of her - like join a sports team at school or the cadettes, or join the gym. This will take your mind off her and let you meet other people.  

Answer 11

Don't listen to her.   Love your self, if she is saying stuff like that about you, then she is the horrible one.

Answer 12

**** that *****

I used to be inferior to my best friend like that, now I kick his *** at everything.

I say you find a new best friend (easier than it sounds right?) Find someone positive who supports you buddy.

then come back and kick that b*****s *** at everything.

Answer 13

Oh Katie,trust me on this you sound just from what you wrote that you are so much better a good person! she's not even worth your time and your energy you surely use alot of when you allow yourself to build up hate for this selfish and spoiled immature ,shallow human being! people who have everything they want all the time often always end up very lonely. stop hanging with her, because youare such a better person who deserves only friends who really care and treat you with respect!by the way, SHE SURE SOUNDS LIKE THE UGLY ONE IN AND OUT! beauty comes from within not from  how much stuff you have. take care and feelfree to e-mail me at:[e-mail]

Answer 14

talk to your dad about her... tell him come on he is yoiur dad after all.h**l do something about it

Answer 15

beat the ***** up ,there's no better way to get rid of your frustration and you will feel fantastic putting her in her place.see how rude she is with two swollen eyes and a burst lip.

Answer 16

First off, why should you be friends with this nasty little person just because your dads are pals?  If your father wants you to spend time with her, you should tell him,  "I'm sorry, but we just don't have that much in common, and I don't really get anything out of spending time with her".  

It sounds like she constantly feels the need to "put people in their place", flaunting her money and other assets to show people how well off she is . . . but, trust me, money is no replacement for a good character and a sense of humour, right?  As one of my friends told the popular girl with all the money in my school several years ago,  "Yeah, well, I could win the lottery tomorrow.  YOU'LL still be an unpleasant bi . . . "  . . . well, you get the idea.

Please, please stop beating yourself up.  You say this person is so nasty and unpleasant, but also that she's better than you?  How in the world?  Do you really want to be like someone who's going to end up bitter and alone years from now just because they have the cool car and the cute boy now?  I could name you dozens of boys AND girls I knew in high school and junior high that were exactly like your "friend" who have turned out poorly, and for me high school was less than five years ago.

Because this girl upsets you so much, there is no reason for you to hang out with her, no matter what your father may think.  If you feel uncomfortable telling him exactly why, then talk to your mother about it.  All it really comes down to is you need to surround yourself with people you actually like and have a good time with, because those are the ones who matter.