How can i stop thinking of my mom's friend?

Question

hi i am 16 years old an my mom has had a friend for about 5 years. she is 38 years old and she is pretty hot and attractive. every time that i go with my mom to visit her friend i just can't keep her of my mind. i look at her every time i can and i fantasize about me having s*x with her. when i am alone with my mom's friend, i almost get to the point of telling her everything i feel and that i would want to have s*x with her but i just don't do it. please help me. what should i do to keep her of my mind and think of her as my mom's friend and thats it. people have told me it is just a crush but it has lasted for almost 6 years. that cant be a crush. thank you

Answer 1

its a crush..unless she gives you the come hither..lay off

Answer 2

it's a crush. You know you can't really have her so that is making it even stronger. Is she married? If she is then for sure nothing. If not at least wait until you are 18 or older to do anything. Right now if she did play around with you, she could go to jail. Good Luck

Answer 3

your moms friend? thats something you dont really hear offten

maybe its just a crush or maybe its just a person you fantasize of.

no matter what it is i think its best you "DONT" let her know or your mother. it may cause problems between them or even akwardness

try and not visit her as much even if thats hard to do. remember shes 38 your 16, im sure theres other girls out there for you :)

Answer 4

Hmm. Are you ever alone together for extended periods of time?

I know that sounds like a counterproductive answer, but hear me out.

Part of you doesn't know how she feels about you, and your mind fills in what it wants to believe. If you are always in mixed company, you'll never have a platonic chance to have those blanks filled in with real information.

If you find a way to be alone with her (and you have the strength to hold your tongue), then you will learn more about how she feels about you in a realistic way through regular interaction and body language. If she is not into you, this fact will slowly dawn on you. It will be heartbreaking, but less so than if she flat out told you so. You'll live!

Best of luck cutey ^_~