How can i teach my 3 yr old daughter to go potty on toilet?

Question

My daughter is going to turn 3 yrs old in 2 months and for some reason does not want to learn to go potty on the toilet. I bought her the little dora seat that goes over the regular one and her own little princess potty chair that she keeps in her room to prevent accidents. but she refuses to sit on either. I bought her training underwear and put them on her but she just will not go at all. even if i sit her on the toilet she wants to get up. and she will only go potty if i put her a diaper on. i put the diaper on her because i don't want her to get sick from holding it when she has the underpants on. please help i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

This must be your first child.  You are doing good.  Don't rush the child. She is slowly coming around.  What's hap ping with the diaper is a starter.  Give a whole lot of tries with the diaper and then switch to the training pants. Still have the problem?  Switch back and forth. Most children come around by the time they are four.

Answer 2

Use the pull-ups that send a message to the child when they need to go potty, i saw the Pull-ups on a commercial, and tell her if she want to be a big girl she has to sit on the potty

Answer 3

Find something highly motivational (bike, trip, etc).

Get rid of all diapers and pull-ups (except at night if absolutely necessary, but take off first thing in the morning).  As long as you still have diapers, training is optional for her.  To help her quickly learn to recognize the need to go, train her bottomless in a long t-shirt or dress for modesty.  Put the potty chair near where she is.  If necessary keep her playing in areas with flooring or on vinyl tableclothes or shower curtains until she progresses.  The feeling of being bare will be a constant reminder that she needs to use the potty.  If she has an accident, take her to the toilet or potty and have her sit for a minute, then have her help you clean up, she can't go and play until the job is done.  When she does use the potty or toilet, have a huge celebration, praise her, maybe surprise her with an unexpected treat.  If you need to take her out and about use underwear and thick pants like jeans, if you are really worried about pee accidents, you could try a maxi-pad in the underwear.  Most kids can graduate from bottomless to underwear in less than two weeks.  If she seems trained, but graduating to underwear causes accidents, go back to bottomless a bit longer.

She'll probably overcome the holding pee issue, but if she is holding bowel movements, try having story time on the toilet each night.  Have her "push" a bit every time you turn the page.  Choose a nice long story and hopefully the pushing will trigger a bowel movement each night before she goes to bed.  My son didn't want to have a bm on the toilet, so I encouraged him to push for "practice", when the BM came that was just a bonus.  If this doesn't work, you may have to consult her pediatrician, you aren't wrong to potty train her and if she holds in BM's, she needs help.  

Answer 4

She'll do it when she's ready. Leave the potty and the seat accessible; ask her periodically if she'd like to try, and don't push it. Some kids just decide (apparently over night) to use the toilet.

Don't turn it into a fight... there's no point. She won't get there any quicker, and you'll end up really frustrated.

Good luck. It really will happen, honest!

Answer 5

It was very important to my daughter that she do things on her own.  "all by myself."  Plus she wanted privacy.  I found a very safe and very sturdy stool with sides for the toilet.  http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...

She climbed right up and felt totally comfortable.  With this stool she potty trained right away.  This stool made all the difference and was well worth it.  Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Take her to the potty with you everytime you have to go. Everytime a woman (close friend, mom, sister) comes over ask them to take her with them so she knows that all big girls do it. That's how my mom trained me at two and a half.

Rewarding her with a sticker or a fun activity and lots of praise when she's willing to just sit on the toilet or princess potty is a great way to potty train. Also check out potty parties, they're really effective: http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Books/story?id...