How can i tell him whats going on with me?

Question

i was going through my bfs pictures on facebook the other day and i found a picture of him and this other girl (his friend...who hes been hanging out with wayy too much in my opinion) UNDER THE SAME BLANKET this has annoyed and upset me for the past couple of days and as a result ive been pissy with him and crying and upset.

he asked what was going on last night and said i could tell him anything, i said that i would tell him later.

im going to ask to meet up with him today to tell him about it...but i dont know whether i should say straight out, i saw you and [girls name] under a blanket or just say i saw a picture that upset me and give no more. he probably wont ask for anymore info.

i know he PROBABLY didnt do anything with her, but the fact is, they were under the same blanket and close together and thats why im upset. that they could have done something and i would never have known. maybe im overreacting but i cant help it.

what should i tell him? or how should i phrase my explanation for my moods?

Answer 1

i would tell him that you found a pic on his face-book that upset you. but i would also at some point tell him that you trust him though it just upset you when you saw it because it wasn't you. or something around those lines.

if you just come right out and use her name and stuff he might think you don't trust him or you are accusing him of something...

so if i were you i would just nicely sit him down and explain it...

who knows maybe he will understand and take the pic off.

but that's just me...do what you feel is right

Answer 2

at first I wouldn't explain your feelings to him. if the picture is still on his facebook profile just take him to the computer, pull up the picture and calmly ask him "What is this?"

let him do all the explaining and justifying...don't say anything else...if he says "what do you mean?'

just repeat the question...

if you're not satisfied with his explanation or he seems evasive just say "ok" and don't pursue the issue but start playing the field again...if he thinks your attention and companionship is interchangeable with anyone else, you start treating the relationship like he is too...