How can i tell my dad this...?

Question

well my dad is always making fun of me and i don't know how to tell him to back of in the nicest way. he is always laughing at me for being 13 and still liking cartoons and he has a serious drinking problem and laughs at me for not being 'cool' and for being bad at math while he got all ' A's when he was in school so how can i tell my dad to stop nicely

Answer 1

Yeah don't be rude to him at all. Instead, try to talk to him about HIS weaknesses you know. Don't talk back at him negatively, I know he is not intending to hurt your feelings, it seems that he enjoys making fun of you; he enjoys the sensation of it. So try to talk to him about his weaknesses and that you will be fine. Otherwise, really, to ignore him is the best.

Answer 2

I relate a lot to this because i am 14 and I am a very sensitive person, and I have a family who bonds by making fun of each other. My family makes fun of my appearance, and I hate it. I love cartoons as well and I am not a "cool person" either, and I don't feel bad about myself, or expect you to either. But I would advise you to sit down with your dad and say that it hurts you and that you would like him to stop, and just explain your feelings. I'm afraid that that cliche answer is all I can offer you. hope it helped.

Answer 3

If you have a mom (don't want to assume) try to talk to her about it.  Also you could talk to a guidance counselor.  But I think that it'd be best to actually address this with your dad when he's sober.  Tell him that it really insults you when he makes fun of you, and ask him to tutor you in math if he was that proficient at it.

I honestly am not sure what to do, I've never been in this situation, but it's all I can say to try and help.  Good luck with everything!

Answer 4

get a life... not really, but kinda... also try hanging out with ur dad more and go throw a football or something... ur dad was once 13... try talking to ur mom

Answer 5

if ur dad has a drinking problem then u should start in the morning or anytime before his first drink of the day.then act all upset and when he talks to you dont asnwer withh a voice just nod ur head. and then he'll ask u wuts rong and you say that he hurts your feelings when he does that. and if that doenst work then act like ur mad at him the next morning and then follow the rooteen

Answer 6

Honesty is the best policy. Just tell him how you feel. He's your dad and I'm sure that if he understood, he would stop.

Answer 7

well with out losing respect you have to be careful cause talking back is not the good way. he drinks so i wouldn't't tell him then but when hes sober maybe you could talk to him and maybe mention those items and in a nice way sorta and tell him what it means when he does that to you maybe he'd stop.

Answer 8

Tell him it hurts your feelings. I know this doesn't always work. I'm in college and still like to watch cartoons sometimes and math is my worst subject....it's ok. Boys still like me and I'm surrounded by great friends. You aren't your dad. Your different and he should love you for who you are. The drinking problem definitely doesn't help him or you. A lot of what he says he probably doesnt mean.

Answer 9

well, if you can, tell your mom.

if not, im sorry for saying that.

i would tell him that you do the things you do because you like them, and that not everyone is good at math. point out something you are good at.

be positive about it.

in the last case, just ignore it. you know who you are and you shouldnt let anybody influence it. even if it is your dad.

Answer 10

just say hey dad could you please find something better to do instead for drink and laugh at me cause when you laugh at me i can smell the hard liquor in your breath and its making me woozy. i mean seriously all that alcohol you drink could stun a gorilla

Answer 11

tell him that its  making you feel uncomfortable the way he is acting with you, and that your diferent and your his son and he should love you not want you to be somebody your not and that you are you and he is he. and tell him that you think his drinking is affecting him and your guys relationship, and that you dont want that to happen that you want to bound with him.so can he please stop acting that way torwards you!

Answer 12

Gee, your dad sounds like he has some serious issues. Anyway that is nice that you want to tell him in the nicest way possible. I would just sit down with him (when he is not drinking so much) and tell him how you feel. Talk from your heart, be nice, but tell him that it hurts you when he talks like that. Good luck

Answer 13

If he has a serious drinking problem I doubt any thing you say to him will help your situation, I don't know how open he is to talking about his drinking but he (and you) need to address this. As an alcoholic and child of an alcoholic, I can tell you he has problems you don't know about and he may not even remember what he has said to you. I think this is a case of laugh at someone else before they have a chance to laugh at you. Kind of like a bully. Can your mom help you. There are also great support systems at church and if you live close enough ALANON (for family members of alcoholic) is great.

Answer 14

There really is no way to tell him nicely. When he dose it again just shout stop it your making me feel bad about myself. He also sounds like a drunk, sorry you have to live with that!

Answer 15

hide the beer, what he says to you while he is drunk is as meaningful as saying i love you on the first date.

Answer 16

Ask your mom to intervene.  He obviously does not take you seriously.  Sometimes people have a problem with taking the feelings of "kids" seriously.  Hopefully, he will take your mom seriously on this.

Answer 17

ask him why hes drinking

Answer 18

Talk to a teacher or guidance couselor at your school who you trust.  They can help you.

Answer 19

Tell him that it bothers you, you have to be straight to him. It shouldn`t be too hard to tell him he`s your father.

Answer 20

tell your mom to say it for you or write him a letter and put it on his bed and then leave the houde whle he reads it andor ignore him while he laughs. He shouldnt judge you!♥ srry you have to deal with that♥you could always call child abuse and have him go to rehab and you can go back to him while he is better. I will get u a site in a sec!

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Answer 21

He probably doesn't realize he is hurting you. Who cares if you are 13 and still like cartoons... that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard!!!

Maybe say "dad, what you say doesn't make me feel good about myself, I wish you would stop making fun of me" And tell him to ACT LIKE A DAD!!