How can i tell my mom im Pregnant, shes going to be dissapointed, im 19 n her only child!!?

Question

She has soo many expectations for me.. and is waiting for me to finish college in about 2 more yrs.. i feel really bad becasue i didnt want to dissapoint her.! !

Answer 1

Just sit her down and calmly explain to her. Also have a plan ready to explain to her, for example going to school while having the baby, and whatnot. Ask her for her support.

Answer 2

Pregnancy is a terrible choice at this age. You are not mature enough to handle a child yet. Maybe consider abortion. After telling your mother so you can go back to school, and have a child after you are ready. by ready i mean when you have finished school and have a well paying job, so you can support your self.

Answer 3

There but for the grace of God go the rest of the female population - only difference was a preventative!  Good Luck - maybe your Mum will look after the baby for you - unless she has a full time job that is.

Answer 4

Grandparent's day is coming up in September. You can give her a picture of an ultrasound. Maybe she'll be okay with it. You won't know until you tell her. Whatever you decide, I hope things work out well for you.

http://www.grandparents-day.com/

Answer 5

sit her down and have a nice calm talk

Answer 6

Call planned parenthood at 1-800-230-PLAN

or just tell her. she will be disapointed. but she will eventually figure out, and the longer you wait the more dissapointed she will be.

Maybe watch Juno, to see how she told her parents. If the boy is still around have him come. To show that he loves you and will stick with you if you have the kid.

Answer 7

No easy way but to just do it.  You are going to well up and cry half way through saying it.  I would do it private and when no one else is home.

Answer 8

Well are you like with the guy who got you Pregnant or was it on bad terms? Cause if its a guy you love then just be happy and get you and him to do it, then you dont have to do it alone.

If Bad terms the only way is to be straight and if you dont want the child do what Juno did in the movie. If you keep the Baby then just dont feel guilty and make the guy give Child Support.

(= GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Just tell her. She may surprise you.

And just because your going to have a baby doesn't mean you can't finish college. It may be tougher but it's still very possible.

Good luck :-)

MissyC

One son (3), 14 weeks 6 days with #2

Answer 10

get an abortion

Answer 11

get rid of the kid.

abort or you will have alot of misery the rest of yourlife and now man will want to date you

Answer 12

tell her to take the lipstick off and get serious!

Answer 13

Tell her private, when your all alone with her and if you don't want to tell face to face, write a letter or a note telling her your pregnant. You can finish college after you have had the baby, and also tell her how bad you feel about this all happening, she's your mom , she'll understand.

Answer 14

Two options.

1. Don't tell and let her figure it out.

2. Tell her and map out a plan for your future.

Answer 15

ASk her how she feels about becoming a grandmother and let her work it out from there.

Answer 16

Yes, your mother is going to be disappointed; very disappointed. Just tell her.  She will come around. What you have to do is find all the resources available to you so that you can finish your studies. Universities often have day-care facilities that are very inexpensive. If you don't plan to continue the relationship with the father (assuming you know who he is), then he will, by law, have to help financially in raising your child. You only have 2 years of College left. Do it girl! DO NOT let this stop you.

Answer 17

Well, is the kid from your boyfriend or a one night stand? If its from your boyfriend (if have been together for a long time) I would tell her. If your mom really loves you, she will help you through this tough time. Just be sure to stay calm and make sure you choose the right time to tell her.

Answer 18

Well first of all you shouldn't have an abortion. It's not right.

But you should just sit your mom down and tell her the truth straight up.  She's  your mom and she loves you. Everyone makes mistakes and chances are she'll help you through it. Just don't freak out on her, it will make it seem a whole lot worse.

Answer 19

Write her a letter, Avery kind one with nice words and explain to her that you will also finish college while pregnancy(if you want to) ... Leave the letter on the table. .. sneak out of the house in a nearby park or anywhere...dont stay at home..You dont want to be there during the disappoinment. Take your phone with you....When she reads the letter she will call you aNd you rather hear her yelling at you. If cases arent that bad go home after an hour if shes really mad..stay at your friends place .. go home the next day..  my opinion.

Answer 20

Just like you've told us, saying how sorry you are you've disappointed her.  Tell her that you will finish college.

Do you intend to continue with this pregnancy and keep the child?  

whatever you do you will need you mums support.

You mum loves you, that is why she has such high hopes.  Tell her that this changes nothing.  that you will continue to work towards your goals only with her grandchild (if you keep it, or if you don't tell her that you will have a break and resume your studying).

Stuff happens, mistakes are sometimes made, and sometimes the wrong turns are found out to be the right turns later on.  I am not going to kid you, whatever happens things are going to be tough, but you need to be completely open and honest.  tell her how much you love and need her and say sorry for making this mistake of getting pregnant now.  Then get on with you life.

You mum will forgive you in time, and you must forgive yourself.

I wish all the blessings in life for you.

Answer 21

Omg i was in the exact same boat!

But i'm 16.

Known i've been pregnant for about 1 month.

I wasn't even going to tell my mum i was just going to have an abortion.(i ended up not having the abortion).

But then i thought she has a right to know shes my mum, whats the worst that could happen?

She had high expectations of me.

Been an A* pupil just left school would be hard for her.

But i had to tell her.

I dont know how i really did it, it was hard to get her by herself, but one morning she was at the breakfast bar reading and i'd just finished buttering my toast, when i sat down and said to her, mum no matter what i do you will always be proud of me right & of course she said yes, & then it all just came out i don't know how i did it, it just happens.

It one of the hardest things to do in the world.

But because shes your mum she will understand.

I hope that helped.

Now 7 months on im having a baby boy and its the best thing thats ever happend to me.

X

Answer 22

It's gonna be hard, maybe try doing it with your aunt if you have one or other family member.

Answer 23

call planned parenthood

Answer 24

ignore the guy that suggested an abortion, show her that you are an adult and are going to take responsibility for what you did. And assure her that you are going to finish college maybe online or something, just that finishing college is going to take a bit longer than it normally would.

Answer 25

ABORTION????????????

poor kid...

just lie...

then drop the baby on an orphanage

Mom, last month I've slept accidentally in a restaurant...

When I woke up i was in someone's hotel room... bed... The man that was on me hid his face so i don't no ho he is, I pushed him to my right but he easily resisted that...

I pulled him to the left... He fell off... I ran... The hotel room started with a '1' with 3 more digits after it

Ok that's just an example... U can't really tell u mom that...

She'll interupt "WHY WERE U SLEEPING?"

OR: go to hospital and remove the undeveloped baby/// hey

        ignore my first word on this post

OR: get married...

Answer 26

Put the child up for adoption, unless your mom wants to take care of it because a child and you in college would ruin your life