How can i tell my mom that i lost my virginity? Should I tell her?and should i break up with him?

Question

im 13. i was at a party wit my friends and my boyfriend showed up. at first we were dancing, and then, grinding, and then, he was like "LET'S GO TO THE BACK" we went, and were kissing and stuff and he kept whisperin in my ear sayin "you gone let me f***?" "we shud F***" "come on girl" then i gave in. now i dont knoe how to break it to my mom or if i should. she doesn't have to find out rite? we used protection!

HELP!!!

Answer 1

if you dont feel ready to tell your mom such a thing dont but it will be a big  rock on your shoulders. just dont ever let a guy make you do something you dont want to because nothing is worse than waking up the morning after and regretting it and wantin to just punch yourself for making dumb decisions. in life your going to have to make alot of decisions, just take the time out and think "is it worth it?" "am i going to regret it?" and if you just dont feel ready. dont do it.

Answer 2

Omg your only thirteen never evrer let anyone pressure you in to doing that you need to tell your mom especially if this boys older then you....

Answer 3

Your mom prob. won't know unless you tell her...doctors can't tell her...so she prob. won't know......one sign of advice though....any boy that says 'Do you want to F*** "is prolly not mature enough to be having s*x in the first place.....but if i remember correctly....my "first" said that too....but he ended up not being a very good person anyways

Answer 4

you should definently tell your mom,tell her exactly how it happend, she may not take it as hard as you think, let her knw you are willing to go and get some sort of protection as in the pill. It will only make you and ur moms relationship stronger, but i do knw where u are coming from,i told my mom and all she was she was disapointed, but she wasnt mad or anything she told me she would take to the doctors to get birth control, and since then we have been closer then ever.

2nd to the guy u r seeing, u shouldnt let him boss u around like that, if u dont want to he needs to respect that and if he doesnt its not worth even being with him, i want you trust me, i knw from experience, but please tell your mom.

Answer 5

well, i didnt tell my parents when i lost my virginity.  whats the point really.  its not like they can undo it.  but i do think you should leave this guy.  he sounds like a creep. and dont ever let anyone preassure you into doing something like that.

Answer 6

If you're questioning whether you should, I think you should tell her.  I'm assuming you've got a close relationship if you feel obligated to tell her.  You're still so young, and you need her guidance.  You need to be able to talk about how you're feeling now, especially if you described the experience as you "giving in."  I would hate for you to harbor all this guilt and shame and then turn to s*x again without resolving your current feelings.  

Answer 7

BREAK UP WITH HIM! He pressured you into something you obviously weren't ready to do!! Tell you're mom. Start it out with "Mom, I'm really sorry, I know I shouldn't have and i wish i could take everything back." and then you tell the story of how you were pressured into it. But say that quote above before you even tell her you lost your virginity.

Anytime anyone pressures you into doing something, just remember this.

Answer 8

if you feel like you should then yes if not she doesnt have to know. i didnt tell my mom till three years later.