How can me and my half sister pay back our dad?

Question

I'm 13 & my half sister is 14. Me & my oldest half sister would like to pay back our dad. 2 years ago our dad was in jail he was there for 5 years & before he got put in jail he didn't really care for us. he had 7 kids from 5 different women including me & my half sister & he got put in jail for kidnaping 2 of his kids but it was not me & my half sister it was pretty much the only kids he cared for cause when was I was born & my dad found out I was a girl he took off & I didn't see him until I was 3 & with my half sister when he found out her mom was pregnant with her he told her to do the thing where the kills the baby in of her and when it was his turn to take us he didn't give us any attention & he never showed that he loved us we think the reason why he was taking us just so he can get our moms off his back and since he been out of jail he has been treating us better & it's probley because he doesn't want to back to jail but me & my half sister would like to pay him back for how he treated us before he went into jail.

Answer 1

I can understand how you both must feel ..being treated like this by your own father is terrible..but I think the best pay back you could give this man is ..Indifference and be a great success in your life..then you can look at him and know you are in no way like him and you never want to do anything like he would do.

Answer 2

if hes whiye date a real dark black thug and ask your boyfriend to kick his ***

Answer 3

And in what shape or form will this make you feel better?  Revenge being sweet is only in books my dear.  No such thing as sweet revenge. What will happen if you do anything drastic will be nothing but remorse. I garantee you. Why not just the past be the past.  Let old dogs lie and move on with your future.

Answer 4

I think you and your sister should sit down and talk to him. Your mom should be there too, it might make you feel more comfortable. You should tell him how you feel and find out if he really wants to be in your life. The only way to find out if he wants to be with you and your sister is to ask him. I remember I had to do that with my dad because he acted like he didn't want to be apart of my life and he would spend most of his time either at work or with my new step mom and her 2 children. I told him that I was his child and that I should be important to him. I also told him that the next time he would promise to come and get me and didn't show up, he did not have to ever call me or try and come see me again. I think I was around your age. I'm not saying that you have to say or even do what I did, but I'm just letting you know that you are not the only one who has gone through the same thing. That was almost 10 years ago and it has changed our relationship A LOT!

And even if he doesn't choose to be in your life, oh well. Some very important and famous people didn't have a mother/father in their life. So as you're growing up, don't hold a grudge or grow up to hate him. Just be the best person you can be and that will make you a much better person!

Just wanted to give you a little hope!

Warm hugs!

Answer 5

I think you should go to church and pray for your dad. Parents are not perfect and we all make mistakes growning up. Maybe your Dad was an alcoholic and Bi Polar and trying to deal with his Disability. Try to think positive about your Dad. Your Dad gave you life. What if one day you need a kidney transplant or a liver transplan? What if you have to ask your Dad for his kidney or half of his liver? You might really need your Dad one day so love your Dad and pray for him. Good Luck.

Answer 6

get a paper round??

Answer 7

Prosper and make a success of your life, dnt stoop to that level.

Be truly happy and forgive him

Answer 8

Sounds like your dad was a real jerk and messed up many things in his life, but jail could have been where he decided to turn everything around. Maybe he wants to start over new and fix all of the mistakes he made before jail. I would give your dad a chance, but tell him how much he hurt you before he went to jail.

Answer 9

just  tell  them

Answer 10

In other words you want to stoop to his level and be just as rotten of a child as he was a father?  He should be proud that his two daughter's turned out to be exactly like him.  Or you could take the high road and be a better person and just let it go.    Paying him back is not going to change the way he treated you when you were little, and it probably won't really matter to him since he doesn't give a d**n anyway.  That is why revenge is wasted.  The person you want to get revenge against doesn't care and it makes the person wanting revenge feel bad just thinking of things they can do to the person who doesn't care.  Grow up, get over yourselves, stop acting like spoiled babies and move on with your lives.