How can my daughter stop talking back to me?

Question

she always gets sassy and she is 14. she wants a cell phone a double pierced ears, but she is sassy. should i get her these things anyway? Please help?

Answer 1

My mom used to smack me in my mouth when I back- talked to her. And while I am not an advocate of child abuse, I still don't talk back. It seems like you missed the boat on teaching your teen how to be respectful to you. Take her to church where they teach 'Honor thy mother and father'. Stop buying her things- everything. School is starting back soon, send her back in last year's clothes. Fix her the same thing for dinner every night, make her start taking care of herself and maybe she will learn the hard way to appreciate all the things you do for her.

If all that fails, smack her in the mouth one good time. Or emancipate her.

Answer 2

well you should tell her "ok the phone is worth 300 dollars every time you give me sass i will take off 10 dollars and every time you respect me i will add 5 dollars. And for your ears, if you respect me after you get your phone 2 months after then i will be happy to let you get them

Answer 3

first of all...dont buy her anything or listen to her

you need to set out the rules and show her whose boss

give her punishments and tell her that she needs to improve her behavior if she wants anything

Answer 4

in a single word...NO

I cannot tell you how to punish your child but punishment is in order when she talks back to you.

Answer 5

do what my mom does warns me and starts cussing me out.then if i don't follow she'll beat the c**p out of me thats how i learn my lesson.so yeah i guess do that

Answer 6

She is supposed to be sassy; she is 14.  She is suppose to want a cell phone and multiple piercings.  Give in to some, let her earn others, but prevent the life altering wants.

And if she gets out of hand, 14 is not too old for that timeout chair in the kitchen!

Answer 7

In my house you earn privileges....and you lose privileges when you don't abide by the rules of the house.

First rule.....I'm the parent and you will respect me.

When she talks back...refuse to bicker with her....send her out of the room....and she can't come back until she's ready to listen to what you have to say.

She can tell her side of things...but when you say that's enough....then that's enough.

Discipline is saying something....meaning it....and following through.

Answer 8

Sassy Attitude= daughter gets what she wants?!  I fell for that one, too!

I confess that I made that mistake with my youngest daughter after she was molested at the age of 12.  I would give her anything and do anything to make her happy!  Well, things only got worse and she did NOT get happier until I learned to put boundaries on MY reactions to her behavior!  

Honestly, it seems like the easy answer to just give-in to stop their whining.  But, eventually I had one demanding, unappreciative daughter and I had to reverse my way of doing things and start all over again.  She did not respect me when I gave her things to please her, although I largely did it out of guilt and sorrow for what she had gone through.   She learned that she was not "entitled" to whatever she wanted and that she was not equal to me.  I am her mother and make the decisions for her best interest.  Period.  She is 18 now and we have a loving relationship and she doesn't make a big issue when "no" is my answer to something she wants.  

  

Answer 9

Why would you get her things she wants when she is sassy to you?  The things she wants are things SHE WANTS...they are not necessities.  I would tell her you will only consider getting her those things if and only if she improves on respecting you and not being sassy.  Tell her if you see an improvement over a months time then you will consider getting them.  Then if you do get them, make sure she knows that you have full control over the cell phone.  If she lapses in her sassiness then you take it back.

Answer 10

Ok, I am have to get this straight-   you are telling me that your 14 year old daughter back talks and is sassy to you, and you are even thinking to reward her with a cell phone and pierced ears.   Please tell me you aren't!!

Answer 11

no

Answer 12

she's a teenager she's going to be rebell especially since they're older and smarter remember you were once a teenager you would had probably done the same. all I say is be a little bit more strict leave the belt as a last resort.

involve the father also this is a team battle you know