How can my ex have supervised visits?

Question

he sent me texts saying he will never be in the babys life and calls the baby "it". he obviously doesnt want "it" and when he gets visitation i will be scared, is this a good reason?

Answer 1

Nope, you have to prove that is going to hurt the baby.  If he threatens to take the baby and run or if you find out he is planning to run or if you know he is drinking or doing drugs then you can try for supervised visits.

Answer 2

This is such a hard situation - has your baby been born yet ?  Firstly, it is really important to take his history and profile into account - does he have ANY history of violence (towards you or anyone else) or substance abuse ?  Depending on the gravity of this, if he is requesting visits then it should really only be at an access centre.

It is really good for a child to be able to have some connection to both sides of the family though, and I really like the suggestion that someone else made about involving his family - is there someone in his immediate family, i.e. Mother or Sister that you could trust with your baby for an hour or so once a week, and if it's appropriate he  can spend time with the baby then if he wants to ?

If he has been abusive to you in the past, do be really careful as shared care of children is one area where abusive jerks can really take advantage !  In the states do you have something like Citizens Advice Bureau ?  I'm sure that you can find some NGO that provides social workers or counsellors free of charge to help you make arrangements - and I'm pretty sure that you should be able to get Legal Aid if you have a low income.  Good luck !

Answer 3

If he does not want to be in the baby life, why is he asking for visits?

Is it for his parents?  I have knew a guy that take visits so there parents get to know the grandchildren, when they died, the father never see the child again

Answer 4

~Does he actually want visitations?  If not, don't push them on him.

If you are that scared he will hurt the baby, don't ask for child support.  Have him sign over his rights of the baby to you fully.  Then you can have that loser out of your life.

The saddest part is the baby is the one who will suffer from the whole situation.