How can one but limits on a person who doesn't takes much of what one say seriously?

Question

There's a cousin of mines that makes fun of practically her whole family and also friends and guests that come to my house.She doesn't know how to joke around since her jokes are disrespectful since it hurts other ppl's feelings because of this she has had problems with a couple of my aunts and they tell her she has wronged them but she just laughs it out. How can one be assertive and put limits on someone who doesn't take anything you say seriously without trespassing her own boundaries? I think it's difficult to deal with these type of ppl.

Answer 1

I have had the same problem with in-laws.  I've told them that if that's how they want to be then they're not invited.  Everyone at my house is polite and cordial.  We joke around but we're not disrespectful.  If everyone in the family gives her the cold shoulder when she acts that way, she'll soon learn respect.  I'm sorry she's that way.  Some people don't seem to know they're words are hurtful.  But they can change.  There was a time when I wasn't the nicest person all the time, but thankfully I grew up a bit.

Answer 2

I believe she takes things way more seriously than you think.  The hurt full jokes are a cover for the pain she's feeling.  Pretty common behavior actually.  Talk to her in a mature non blaming way and express your wishes.  Things could get way better for all of you.