How can save someone from alcoholism?

Question

I love someone is alcoholic.

He knows he has a problem, but he can control it.

We tried everything including AA meetings. Does anyone has a good idea to help my BF?

Answer 1

I am sorry, but he cannot control it, as it is bigger than he is.

YOU cannot save him, only he can save himself, and both you and he need to come to accept that.  Please get yourself to Alanon.  I hope he goes to AA and stays there, but you need to be in Alanon.  Let him do his own program.

This is the truth, 100%.

Answer 2

Speaking from experience. Before even trying to give up alcohol, he needs to want to. When he wants to, he will be able to. Or at least cut down.If he is drinking hard spirits, try going down to beer or cider. Some thing a bit weaker. Some thing he will be sick with before he gets his hit. Get rid of all alcohol in the house to stop him being tempted for that "Last one". When he wants to quit, he will be able to.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to tell you, but you cannot make him change, he cant do this for anyone else, he needs to do it for himself. You can always help him along by telling him you aren't going to stick around and watch him self destruct.

Keep your head up!

Answer 4

Save yourself, whatever that involves. Good luck with it, at any rate.

Answer 5

The harsh reality is that he's the only one who can do it.  If AA isn't working check with your local mental health center about inpatiet treatment.  It won't cure him but it could help give him the tools he needs and he would be able to detox safely.

Answer 6

my mum has been with an alcoholic for the past ten years and i guess she stays cos she dosnt want to be lonely, i know she is not happy. try talking to your partner and make him realise that if he dose not goto the docs for help u will leave him. u may not want to leave but u have to think of your happiness

Answer 7

You can't help him. Be prepared to eventually be blamed for it. I spent twenty-three years with an alcoholic. At least yours admits he is one. That is one good thing. It is a very painful life. You will always be second. A neverending nightmare.

Answer 8

I'm an alcoholic and it's hard. I am not drinking right now because it depresses me and I'm tiered of it but I crave it everyday. I asked my Dr for antibuse because if you take that you cant drink or you will get really sick! That helped me because I was to scared of not being able to breathe if I drank!  Also you can help him fill what ever void he is trying to fill. Go to church,start working out, go to movies in the evening.  Keep him busy so he doesn't have time to drink. Go to the river far away where there is no alcohol and enjoy nature.  Try reading or bike rides. If I were you I might want to consider alanon classes because being w/ someone who is an alcoholic can be really bad for you as well. You could try telling him he has to chose between you or alcohol. That has worked w/ me in the past. Anyway sweetie good luck! I hope he can change but most likely not! Don't lose you trying to save him. You have to put you first sometimes too!=)

Answer 9

you can't do it for anyone else..he has to want help..

Answer 10

Nope.  He's an alcoholic.  He might know he has a problem, but he isn't ready to stop.  He'll have to lose it all before he quits.  Including you.  You will become an enabler if you stay with him, untill you can't stand it anymore.  Then you will leave him.  Might as well do it now and save yourself some heartache.