How can someone give up they're rights as a parent to a child they have never met.?

Question

I have a son I do not know. His mother and I had a one nighter long time ago. He has a DAD. Only dad he has ever known. She would like me to give up rights on paper so that they can adopt him. How can I do this without it costing a small fortune? Can't I just sign a document and have it notorized?

Answer 1

Either just sign the doc and have it notarized or don't show up for court.  That was you forfeit your rights all together.  Don't think that your son won't show up on your doorstep one day.  My daughter is adopted and met her father at the tender age of 14.  She realizes why I left him and still calls her adopted father "daddy".  Now, she wants to do the same with my grandson.  The biological isn't in the picture anymore.

Answer 2

They need to have you served with papers from their lawyer.  Depending on your state, all you should need to do is have them signed and notarized.

Your son probably will want to meet you someday, you are part of who he is.  Make that easy for him, by keeping in touch with his mother if you change addresses.  Make certain that you provide a complete family medical history to her, as well, and keep her updated of any major issues that come up in the future.  Remind her that he will probably someday want a copy of his original birth certificate, and that she should get one before the adoption is final.

Once the adoption is final, you will no longer appear on the birth certificate.

Answer 3

Yes, this should work.  She will probably provide you with the paperwork to take to the notary, and it shouldn't cost a lot.

I suggest writing a letter to your son, stating that if you'd ever met him, you would have loved him, and that although he wasn't planned, that you are glad he's on earth, and you're glad that he has a good man to call Dad, who's been there for him.  One day, he's going to want to meet you, and I believe he has that right.  However, I also believe that the man who is raising him should be able to be his dad if you don't bother to go see him yourself.  It's an act of love to make sure that he has a family like he deserves.

Answer 4

She files for termination of your parental rights in court.  If you don't dispute it, there will be a social study or meeting with worker to prove new dad is decent and the home is in good order.  You will be served to appear.  If you don't contest, they could make a default decision.  Basically, all the cost is on her.  You can submit an affidavit stating your wishes to this judge.

Answer 5

I took this question in the wrong way. I'm asking you- how can you give up a child you have never met?