How can this be adoption?

Question

A friend of mine found out that is dead adoptive Father really is his Father,via affair. Family has alot of money and has always treated him as the b*****d child. Family,has over and over again tried to cheat him on his inheritance. His adoptive Mother is still alive,but really does not talk about the situation.

His real mother has been in contact,but his a liar. How does he go about seeing if he was really adoptive,and if this man is really his Father would he be adoptive. What does he need to do to find out,and how does he claim his just due. His siblings have always treated him like the black sheep. Any suggestion?

Answer 1

It is tragic your friend has been treated so cruelly. Unfortunately, when someone writes a will in this sort of case, DNA does not matter in the court's eyes.  The burden of proof is sadly on the prosecution. Unless your friend is absolutely sure his "siblings/mother/executor" will tell the truth (& most likely they won't) it would be very difficult to prove his father was not of sound mind, 1) because of the siblings  2) because his mother is unwilling to say anything about this, & 3)  since most attorneys are also chosen (unfortunately) as executors of the estate and therefore are paid fees and these attorneys are members of the "the old boys club, and know the judges well. It's a catch -22, with all the "legal" entities scratching each others' backs. If your friend is able, I think it would be best if he "disowns" this family & tries to get on with his life. At some point one has to apply a tourniquet and stop the bleeding. What money he does have is best used to save for his future. Personally, I wouldn't bother keeping in contact with these people. If I were him, I'd put my funds into finding a good therapist to help heal his trauma and move on and away from this abusive and avaricious clan. I am so sorry your friend is being treated so abominably.

Answer 2

Wow I thought my family was screwed up, this is a really sad story. I hope he can find out the truth.

Answer 3

Contact an attorney. That is the only way to proceed. The attorney can then suggest DNA testing, pull birth records, etc. It sounds like a pretty convoluted situation and he will need someone professional to weed it all out.

Answer 4

if he has any biological siblings they can do a dna test and can test the biological mothers.  if the siblings show the mothers are different but the biological mothers to each child, then if the two sibling's dna is still a familial match even though it's been proven different mothers then he will have a right.  also if the father legally adopted him he legally has the right to all inheritances of his father's the same as a biological child would.  i'm sorry for your friend's family.

Answer 5

This is what I am gathering from your post. Your friend was a product of an affair that his father had. The father got the child and his wife ended up adopting the child. Probably because he was ashamed of his affair he just decided to say that they had adopted him. If his father’s wife legally adopted him then yes he would be adopted. It would be more comparable to Step-parent adoption.

As far as inheritance well unless his father put him in the will to get some money or something. He is just out of luck.  James Brown left his youngest son out of his will.  You can even look at Anna Nicole Smith she made her son Daniel her sole heir, leaving out any children that might later be born to her. Now it’s a sticky situation obviously because Daniel predeceased her.  People can leave their things or money to whomever they please. Like that lady that left the majority of her money to her dog, in fact she left out two grandchildren saying that they knew why in the will they were left out.

He might consider talking to his mom again she might have more information. Its understandable that she dosent want to talk about it who wants reminisce about their husband being unfaithfully to them.   Since this man is deceased he would have to run his DNA against another child of this deceased mans

Answer 6

He needs to consult with an attorney.  That's the best way to make sure that he gets any money coming to him.

Answer 7

Well, with the Father dead it makes thing difficult.

If the Father had other biological children, they could do a DNA test still I think.

Answer 8

I understand completely I too am adopted and my adoptive Father is my real father whom has also pasted away 10yrs ago.I did not find this out till after his death and now I have a sister whom is 13yrs.older than myself whom told me I should have never been brought into the family her and I to this day do not talk unless we have to. Your friend is as much a part of that family as anyone else and if he is in the will then he has every right to have his part.my advise is to seek legal advise and go from there....but remember if any of the siblings don't like it tell them you were chosen by your parents,when they had the rest of them they got what they got.....I too have a relationship with my birth mother now since my father has pasted away and it has answered alot of questions....DNA test can be done with another sibiling to see,and we are not black sheep,we are special and chosen......

Answer 9

DNA tests.

But if the $ went to amama--he's screwed.

Answer 10

from what you wrote, i'm assuming that your friend grew up thinking that he had been adopted and then when his father died, he told him that he was his biological father. the father probably is his biological father and he was adopted by his mother. he needs to talk to the adoptive mother about this. regardless if he talks to her or not, he needs to. it's his right to know.

Answer 11

He should get his birth & adoption records from where his birth was registered.  That may give him some grounding.

I wonder if DNA testing of his half-siblings would help him determine if he really is a half-sibling?  Will this change how they treat him?  Regardless of the results, probably not.

Sometimes it's better to cut your losses and put things behind you...work on being a more productive member of society and work on what makes your quality of life better! Work on a better support system...they don't sound like "family" that I would want to be a part of.