How can u bring love back to a relationship?

Question

I married my wife soon after she found out she was pregnant. I love her and before we were married she showed she loved me.

We have 2 children and she has 2 from another relationship.

I love her with all my heart but she seems to not want any kind of physical relationship.

we went from random love making and lovey doveyness

to where we havent had s*x in over a month and she doesnt even want to kiss or hold hands.

Answer 1

I know this feeling... My hubby and I have been together for 4 years. At first the s*x was insane at all times of the day, wherever and whenever. Slowly things dwindled until we were only having s*x every 3 months or so. The problem was that I didn't want any s*x. I have 2 kids, and I felt like I wasnt s**y anymore. I felt like I let myself go. I felt all around gross. I sat down with my husband and told him how I felt, that conversation led to talking about our sexual fantasies and desires, our turn ons and turn offs. Hubby also then told me that each month I should take time for myself, buy some new clothes, get my hair done, my nails done, etc... I took him up on that and ever since then we've been very intimate like old times. Anytime, anywhere.

You need to talk to her, and every day you need to tell her that she's still s**y and that shes the only one you want. Make her feel s**y and desired.  

Answer 2

The only way to "bring love" back is to want it back by both partners. You can bring your participation back; however, if she is unwilling, you are flying this plane solo. No co pilot here buddy.

You need to discuss this with her and give her enough confidence to say "whatever" is on her mind. Let her speak and you really listen. She is approximately 30-40 years of age or older. She has four kids, which is enough to dry up any woman's love making attempts. Some women experience this..."wants no more kids and romantic touching/love making" can lead to or remind her of having another kid... Some women, who are good to excellent Mom's, are too tired to think of s*x/romance/being a responsive woman in the partnership of marriage. Sorry. These things do exist and should be discussed and worked on. Let her know that you still desire her, Do not criticize her, as if this is a plot to deprive you of your conjugal rights. It could just be a scenario  of life and the worst of the better part of marriage. Good Luck.  

Answer 3

dude its over, move on. roll with it. there's plenty of hot chics out there

Answer 4

Call a lawyer dude she's getting it elsewhere

Answer 5

just give her her space thts p[rob all she needs dont keep nagging her about it just ask her and if she dosent want to talk about it just let her be and sooner or later she will turn around!  

Answer 6

If this is a short term situation I would let it ride but if it turns into an extended time I would let her know how you feel and see what happens. Should it fail to return to where your s*x life with her is not what you need/want then I would move on. s*x is a very important issue in a marriage and I for one would not be married/live with/whatever without my sexual needs being at least considered.