How can we be sure that the person we are going to marry is cut out for us ?

Question

How can we be sure that the person we are going to marry is cut out for us ?

Answer 1

You are already having doubts or else you would not have written this. That may tell you something. I will be married 12yrs next month and just now there is something(not cheating) that may test our marriage. So just b/c at that time of saying I DO doesn't mean everything will be ok after vows are done and over with. Your whole marriage will be a test. Love, of course will be there, but how much? If the person wasn't cut out from the VERY BEGINING, then they won't be now. But if that person is a give and taker, and fairly might I add, then things, on a light lever, can be worked out. But the harder stuff, like cheating, addictions of any type, and money can be the real testers, will really determine what a marriage can handle. Good luck lovely.....

Answer 2

Have to understand the difference of love and just being in love, and know what you want and what she wants and make sure they are similar and there's respect and compromise from both sides.

A quote from the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin:

Iannis: "When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is!"

Answer 3

you should know by now.  go with your gut feeling

Answer 4

There are no guarantees, but if you have doubts don't get married

Answer 5

Nothing comes with a 100% guarentee and the same goes for marriage. Just believe that the person you are marring is the right one for you.You should know in your heart whether or not this is the right person,so go with your heart.

Answer 6

Save yourself the trouble, do not get married.

Answer 7

Have you only just met this guy or something?