How can we handle the stubborn jealousy of a very loved person?

Question

Cause it always breaks the heart and will make one feel so inhabited with actions and words.. Thanks!!

Answer 1

Jealousy is narcissistic perversion and destruction.



It is selfish in that its chief concern is for possession whilst perverting the person being obsessed over.

Nothing corrupts a person more than to be worshiped, and while very few people know what it is like to be obsessed over, and some even fancy it flattering, fair men and women who have been victims of such aggressions attest at how it distorts not only their self image, but hampers their ability to trust and become intimate afterward.

It ego feeds in the most perverted forms and is never to be confused with love—although it usually is.

It is not “love” since love entails admiration and respect, and a jealous person neither loves nor respects the person they are jealous over.

It is narcissistic and solely concerned with “possessing” and it results in corrupting both parties whilst enslaving its victim.

Your difficultly in “letting that person go” is an indication of how deep the corruption has saturated your psyche. Your main difficulty in breaking the relationship is not a battle between you choosing to love or abandon that person but rather your willingness to cease being worshiped or to continue to feed off that person’s addiction.

People who are victims of jealousy become so addicted to being worshipped that they eventually exchange their loss of freedom and peace for that powerful drug like ego-poison.

This happens to famous people all the time and is one of the reasons they have high divorce rates.

This is serious business. Your friend needs counseling and if you truly “love” that person, you will let him or her go.

Dealing with a stubborn person is like trying to handle a rock as if it were clay—your hands will splinter and break long before you manage to make event the slightest indent.

Answer 2

Another issue could be the significant other's self esteem...or lack therof.  Doing small things like random compliments in their direction could help them to build up some confidence.  Encouraging them to do things that draw on their stregnths may be good too.

Answer 3

Jealousy is a very complicated emotion & one that gets a bad rap.  For a different perspective, check out this author:

http://www.times.com/books/first/b/buss-...

Answer 4

Jealousy is typically an indicator that the person, for whatever reason, feels insecure about the relationship and lacks trust in their partner.  

The short answer is to discuss trust issues and triggers in your relationship that create jealousy with your partner until they begin to decrease.  The more complete solution to this problem is to see a qualified relationship counselor to aid in the exploration and resolution of this fairly typical phenomenon.

Answer 5

Love his jealousy and in your love it dissolves forever.