How can we have more fun making love?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 9 years. When we make love, it always seems to be the same old missionary position or him on the bottom. I have always been a little shy, and I'm trying to open up and make our time together fun. Any ideas on other positions or situations that can break our regular method and my our loving making fun? The one thing neither of us are interested in is S & M.

Answer 1

Movies, toys, s**y lingerie, a s**y game. There are plenty of safe sites online that will send you discrete packages, which makes it so much easier to get a hold of these items (especially if you are shy, going into a shop is hard!)

All these things will help. Also, he's your husband!!! stop being so shy!  Once you learn how to open up, things will get so much better. Ask for things you want, just tell him. Even have a talk with him about changing things up. s*x should be fun, it shouldn't be boring.  

Answer 2

Buy a kumusatra book. I bet itll be fun to read with him. You can both point out and say hey lets try this position.  

Answer 3

You know I have had the same problem. Try adding a small vibrator to the mix, try oral s*x, innitiate s*x in a different spot...Try talksexwithsuejohansen.com

Answer 4

Just check cosmo.com. They have tons of tips to spice things up.

Answer 5

Hot Wheels, any more details and I would get kicked off here.

Answer 6

Books, magazines, movies, tv, newspapers even - there are s*x tips everywhere! If he won't take the initiative to spice things up, try it yourself. Just be careful how you phrase it, make it a suggestion and not a demand. Something like: "I would love to try ____, what do you think about that?"

Answer 7

if you are looking for the new positions, read some s*x related books or watch some x rated movies. but there are other ways to achieve complete satisfaction without having to change your usual position is to prolong pre-penetration caressings, such as touching each other's parts, kissing each other all over the body specially the sensitive portions, until both of you are ready to go to the real play.

Answer 8

Watch some movies together...you might get some ideas.  Or go buy some extra toys for the bedroom/

Answer 9

Be adventurous, try acting young and in love again.  Back when kids are young they don't have a room to go to..."think outside the room".  Maybe camping or hiking, and find a secluded spot.  Maybe movies, toys, or even Cosmo has good ideas.  Foreplay can be fun...try new things.

Answer 10

First you need to get him to agree to try some new positions.  If he is willing to try some new ones, then I suggest you get a book from Barnes and Noble Bookstore on s*x.  A few months ago I saw this paper back book that had around 365 pencil illustrations / drawings of different positions.  I was in some ones house when I saw it and soon put it back because it would have been very embarrassing if i was caught looking at it.  But it was very interesting to look at.  Each page of the book was devoted to a different position.  Later I thought of a game that could be made with this book.  It would consist of writing  the page number on a small separate piece of paper for each position illustrated in the book.  (Both of you would need to agree  to try and do as many positions as possible and put those numbers in a box, however, those pages illustrating positions that both of you are not willing to do would not be included in the numbers you place in the box).  Each night (hopefully)  or  before each time you would have s*x, one of you would pick a number from the box and both of you would do that position first, after that, the rest would be up both of you as what to next (maybe pick another number).  Have fun.  

Answer 11

Hot wax on his area. Every guy likes it ... all warm and burning. Pure pleasure right there.

Also call him effeminate names like sissy, b*tch, and lady. Every guy likes to have the masculine kicked right out of him. Truly this will spice up the love making for sure!

Answer 12

Monkeys or rodeo clowns.  Take your pick.  Either are certain to spice up the bedroom.  ;)

Answer 13

try a site sexpositions101, it is done in computerized 3D, and is very tasteful. Also, you gotta try fantasy roll playing. It can be very exciting and fun.  

Answer 14

yea, buy one of those intimacy board games. You can find some that are relatively tame, and this will hopefully help you start to learn about each other in a less intimidating way. You just do what the cards say, then you can ask " did you enjoy that" "what did you think of THAT?" You will probably laugh alot, and your comfort level and communication will hopefully improve, which will hopefully open the door for you to discuss things you both may want to try. Don't automatically veto EVERYTHING, sometimes you can modify it to something similar in your comfort zone.

Answer 15

Talk dirty to him,,, if you want it harder and faster, there is nothing hotter than when a women tells you to "F****ck me hard" Tell him what it is your body is craving. Its a small step, but will go a long ways. Communication is the key to Earth moving s*x.

Answer 16

you can start with something small.. like adding a lub that heats up or tingles.. I would also try a game.. drugstore.com has a bunch of stuff and they ship in unmarked boxes