How can we keep kissing at a minimum on our wedding day?

Question

I am so terrified of kissing my fiance at our wedding before ppl, and we're being married 9th aug 2008. I'm freaking out constantly. The monster part is cutting the cake, i was told i have to leave a piece out and he has to eat the rest and kiss me. I'd rather do that in our honeymoon suit and not infront of everybody. Its just my nature. Plz help.

Answer 1

First of all, try to relax and not worry about it too much. You will only stress yourself out and to be honest, I hate kissing in public too but I figure I'm going to be so happy that day that I wont care.

I like some of the other suggestions on here. You have got some good advice, I especally like the idea of blocking the view with your arm or maybe you could turn your back to the people so you dont seem them when you are kissing, you only see him. Also, you dont have to kiss after cutting the cake if you dont want to. Its up to you. I would talk to your fiancee about your fear and maybe the two of you can practice a kiss that will make you both feel comfortable.

Answer 2

Well you gotta kiss at your wedding! I don't really like kissing in front of people either, but it's your wedding! Don't fret! :) If you aren't comfortable, then just give him a peck! Also, liquor always seems to make me feel more comfortable! Good Luck! Don't stress! :)

Answer 3

you dont ahve to do anythign you dont want!

My suggestions

make sure there are no noise makers or bells

tell you families and bridal party so they dont try you to kiss

come up with something else you can do likea  hug or kiss his nose or something you are comfortable with

Answer 4

Oh my.  Please, in my opinion at least, don't listen to Ophelia.  Saying 'get over it' to someone as nervous as you about that is as appropriate as someone saying to a funeral attendee to 'get over it, they're gone'... and this is a reception/ceremony to honor your new life, not to submit to the wishes of the attendees.  They bring you gifts out of thanks for inviting them to such an important day, not as leverage to get what they think they deserve.

Don't 'get over it'... some of the other answers to this question are quite good.  Wrap your arms around him and just peck (if you do good, then your arm may block the view a little as well!) and let your noses meet (if you're comfortable with that, it will give the illusion of a stronger kiss as well).

I really like the answer from feyqueen ... he can kiss you on the hand like a gentleman... a little unexpected, yet still romantic.  It could throw the guests off enough that none of them would miss, or only fleetingly think of, the 'traditional kiss'.

Answer 5

Sweetie, you can do whatever you want on your wedding day, it's YOUR day!  People were doing the clinking of the glasses thing trying to make us kiss during dinner, so I made a rule that they had to sing a song with the word love in it in front of the entire reception hall, that rule stopped that c**p real quick.  If you don't want to do the cake thing, don't.  It's not about what people want or expect of you, it's you starting your life with your husband, start it any way you want.....Good Luck and Congratulations!!!!!

Answer 6

The only time you HAVE to kiss is at the altar. (And even that is negotiable, depending on how traditional you want to be ;). )Yes, at a wedding people expect to see affection, but if you're not into PDA it IS your wedding. There are no rules that say you must kiss after cake. To be honest, I've never even heard that. The world will not end if you don't kiss a lot. Even if you just hold his hand the whole reception, there is no reason you should be uncomfortable at your own wedding. You don't need help. You just need to claim your day and do things your way.

Answer 7

Does your fiance know how you feel?

What is his response to this?

I'm assuming you aren't against kissing, just kissing in public.

You do NOT have to kiss with the cutting of the cake,AND you don't have to kiss at the end of your ceremony, but it is traditional.  If you do choose to kiss it doesn't have to be a passionate, deep kiss.  All it has to be is sweet & tender.

It goes quickly.

Answer 8

We don't do much as far as PDA's either. When it came time to "Kiss the Bride" you will be so overwhelmed that you'll forget the other people and it will be just you and your husband. You will kiss each other just as you feel is appropriate for you.

My husband and I did not announce we were cutting the cake. Our cake and was in a separate room from the food and guests so it was very private. The photographer fortunately followed us around and caught us so we did have pictures. Everyone was surprised when the cake was cut and was being handed out. Maybe this would work for you and you could invite only your parents to share in this special moment.

It is your day. It can have private moments. The guests are just that.....guests. They are entitled to only what you chose to share with them.

Enjoy your day. Kiss your husband! You'll never regret it and he'll never tire of it.

Answer 9

Get over it. People will say things like, "it's your day, do whatever you want" but it's not, and you can't. The guests are bringing you presents and wishes for a happy union, so you are required to perform to their expectations. You can manage two kisses during the course of the day - one at the altar, one after cake.

Answer 10

Unfortunately you have to kiss some. When I got married it was just myself, my husband and the man that married us and I was terrified of kissing my new spouse in front of ONE person, so I understand completely. We've been married a few years now and I'm still gun shy in public, specially around family. So when you kiss in front of everyone, just do a closed mouth close kiss that will cause you and your husband to embrace, making it appear like you are having a more intimate moment that you really are, that is how my best friend handled it at her wedding. And at the cake part she just did a quick lip peck and lots of sweet smiles directly aimed at her new husband. Hope that gives you some ideas. You don't have to kiss your new husband every 5 minutes, just make sure you look as happy as you are and you shoot him lots of loving looks and lots of hugs and hand holding. That will be enough. GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

I suggest that you make both the "Do what you want" and "Follow the rules" people happy with the following:

Have your Gallant new husband kiss you... ON THE HAND. This can be one of the most romantic images possible, and yet you're not expected to do something intimate in front of all those people.

Personally, I think the kissing-with-cake-in-your-mouth idea is disgusting, and I would never do it. Neither would I "smash" cake into my new husband's mouth, despite the fact that THAT has become "Tradition", too.

Anyone who knows you would understand if you were shy about kissing in public. If they don't know you well enough to understand, then they have no business coming to your wedding.

Answer 12

Nobody forces you to kiss anybody so this is really in your control.

Have you considered not worrying about it so much though? Why not let your worries go and do what happens naturally that day? You’re not there yet and can’t really know how you’ll feel about something until it actually happens. Who knows? You may get there and forget that your guests are even watching.

Answer 13

It's not like he'll have his tongue down your throat, it's just a peck on the lips or cheek. You will have already kissed in front of everyone after the vows are spoken. Have the two of you EVER kissed at all?

When you're kissing someone that you love, the world falls away. Just close your eyes and concentrate on the kiss and only on the kiss. Take your time and think of nothing that comes before or afterwards. Trust me, you won't care if the President is watching!

Answer 14

just do the little peck thing... and don't worry... you won't see most of the other people in the room anyway.. it will only seem like it is you and him most of the time so try not to worry too much about it...

oh yeah... and i don't even think my husband and i kissed after the cake... he was too busy biting my finger that put the cake in his mouth and everyone was too busy laughing to notice... we may have... but i don't remember now.. the only thing i remember is how good the cake was and him biting my finger... lol

Good luck.. :D