How can we know if someone lying to us?

Question

When we are talking to someone, for example..we are talking with our friends. How can we know that they are lying? How will we know if they are telling us a lie?

Answer 1

The Top 10 Ways To Tell if Someone is Lying To You

Their eyes cast down when they lie.

They add too much.

Nervous laughter.

They feign ignorance about something you know they know.

They take charge of the conversation to distract/divert you.

They play on your friendship: asking you to just trust them.

You sense that something is off; any clue will do.

You find YOUR eyes squinting and your head angling several degrees.

When you ask for an explanation/clarification, there's a momentary gap while they conjure up something.

Explanations are given, that, while plausible, aren't good enough for YOU

Answer 2

There is no real true way to know if someone is lying to you. Some people are so mastered at the art of lying that you can't tell the truth between a lie with them.

What you can do is look for any inconsistencies when they talk to you about certain things. In my past experiences I've learned that when people answer your question with another question its usually so they can think of an answer to your original question. When people don't look you in the eye is another sign.

I found online:

Signs of Deception:

Body Language of Lies:

Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Interactions and Reactions

• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content

• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other

words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized

Other signs of a lie:

• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Answer 3

I've noticed people tend to get very defensive when I know they are lying about something I am calling them out on.  Now as far as everyday converstions, to see if someone is lying about something they are saying they heard or did, that is a tougher one to catch.  I would just watch their body language, or even say "No way...I don't believe that happened" and watch what there reaction is.  If they get really defensive and angry, I would use that as a warning sign to try and actually "catch" them in a lie in the future.  In the meantime, if you have to ask this type of question about a person, it isn't someone that you should share a whole lot of personal information with.

Answer 4

it all depends on who the person is..if there a bad lier they will be nervous and u can easily tell, most people do a certain thing if there lieing so look for that.

if ur a good lier like me then u show nothing at all just like a normal convo

Answer 5

u can tell when someone is lying to u when the say u then answer or change there answer like 2-3 times

Answer 6

if they avoid looking in your eyes and they hesiaatee before they give u an answer or have to think of what theyre going to say they are most likely lying

Answer 7

When my boss lied to us her voice would get high pitched and she'd strutter through the whole sentence. This happens evey time without fail...

Answer 8

Look at their eyes and see if they're focus on you or just looking around. The eyes don't lie. And also if they're nervous or skipping words and even trying to skip convosation than they are lying.

Answer 9

if they look to the left it means they are lying about the thing they just said. also if they seem to stutter or make too long of a pause

Answer 10

simple :Body language ....if they don't look at you...they are lying. if they look at you and then swallow quick and then look away for a few seconds they are lying to you....If you ask them a question and they are quiet for a few second and look away from you they are lying.

  

Answer 11

I usually doubt what they are saying if for one they don't keep eye contact the whole time. Like your friend is telling you something and at one point they look up or they watch your face but not eyes. They also say that a standard way to know someones lieing is if they look up to the left. I read that in some psych book and actually has been truthful. Another way to know is say someone flaked on you or something and they give you this huge explanation with tons of details. Unimportant details. Or they start giving explanations for something without even needing to. I don't know, lots of people will fidget, move or play with their hands or mess with there face. Anything that feels not right usually is your gut telling you that they are full of sh**.