How can women be still in love with man after she has left him about 10 years ago?

Question

i left this man years ago because people told me that he was cheating on me. i asked him and he denied it also, he told me that he loves me. being hurt before i begin to not trust him, so i left him.

Now, that i gotten back on track all i do is think of him, Why?

should i tell about My feelings for him or just let it be?

Answer 1

If he was your first love it's the worst.

Answer 2

i've been reading stories on ex's on line trying to find related info that i can relate my personal dilema on. this post comes closest.

for me, it feels like a limbo.

after so many years having gone by you'd think that your feelings and perspective about that person and about yourself have changed. nothings changed, for me atleast.  questions like..why havent i moved on?, or should i tell him how i feel? are constantly on my mind.

i think, going along with just "letting it be" will drag along with you i guess untill you find another replacement. its basically waiting it out.  

it's a tough call spilling your feelings. you'll feel totally down if you do tell your feelings and are rejected, but maybe this can be some kind of relief or closure, or even a new beginning who knows....

women will tell you ( i am, dont mind the screen name) to NOT spill your feelings to him (the rules), and then you have the (men r from mars/women venus) folks that veer you towards communication and talking and make you think sure, why not, ima gonna tell him.  so, who's right?

i think, in the end it has a lot to do with gaining confidence and dealing with insecurities. its tough not knowing how to go about dealing with this kind of situation.  its personal, so eventually you will be the only one to know what to do. once you are positive about your decision to tell him or not, if anything, feel good about yourself to have done what You wanted to do.

Answer 3

tell him ur feelings be honest with him he deserves to know the truth