How can you be friends with the 'cool people' that do beer and drugs, but be smart and not do it yourself?

Question

Like, I have a friend, she's really nice and funny, but she does alcohol and her friends do drugs.

I want to know how not to be influenced by them, but still hang out with them ocassionally. I want to do well in school and get into a prestigous university, and not break the law and do stupid stuff like they do.

She's going to grade 10, and i'm going into grade 9, so first year of high school.

Answer 1

How do you touch fire & not get burned? You don't. You just don't. They may be your friends, but they will bring you down, if not literally by influencing you to do drugs or drink, they will weigh you down with so much psychological trauma that you cannot win in this situation. Try to convince your friend to stop drinking. Get her help. She shouldn't be drinking at all at her age, she will eventually get into drugs if she's hanging around others who do. She needs your help, not your condolence of her behavior. If she refuses to change & get help herself, then you need to find other friends. Its not easy, I know, but you sound smart enough to know that it's the only way you can protect yourself. There are a lot of "really nice & funny" people out there, you WILL find better friends. Remember that these "friends" probably got started in drinking & drugs by their so called friends. They didn't stay smart. You have too. & one more thing, your friend just may want to change to stay your friend & hang out with you. Be a good influence for her, instead of allowing her to be a bad influence on you.

Answer 2

In all honesty, you're asking about hanging out w/the whole wrong crowd of people.  You start hanging out w/them, people are going to think you're one of them. I'm sure you don't want people forming opinions of you like they are.  Too, while they're doing their "things" you're going to get very bored.  You won't have anything in common w/them & why waste your time.  You're not like them at all, & you even have different goals in life than they do.  They're headed for trouble, & I don't feel that's the way your direction goes.  Find a better crowd to spend your time with, you won't regret it I'm sure...Good luck to you...:)

Answer 3

she isnt cool. just because she does drugs and stuff. who is the person to say she is cool.

Answer 4

i dont see what the big deal is.

its not that hard, just say no.

half my friends drink and do drugs or whatever and they dont have a problem with me not doing it with them. if they do then lol what losers? what does it matter if someone doesnt do everything that you do?

if someone had a problem with you not doing drugs and drinking with them then theyre lame. no one is actually like that.

like seriously ive been around drugs since fourth grade cause my brother is four years older than me and hes a major pothead. and i have barely touched a drug. cant say i never drank anything though.

just make sure your friends arent being dumb and doing hard drugs that can seriously mess them up. or doing it somewhere that they can be easily caught.

Answer 5

You have a much higher chance of getting into that if you hang out with them.  Better safe than sorry.  Don't let it ruin you chances of having a good life! Please don't hang out with them.  After they're out of highschool and don't get into college, they're going to be the biggest losers.  

Answer 6

I'm going to 9th grade to and have never done drugs its pretty easy..

just say no and if they don't wanna be there friends than that's there lost not yours..mostly all my friends do drugs but i don't it takes allot of courage to say no but trust me you'll be glad you didn't say yes and end up in rehab like some of them might

Good luck xo

Answer 7

well you know what? you can get into it real easy and try it and get hooked and then you are done your world goes down the toilet. i mean if they get caught and you are with them you could do down also i had friends like that and i chose to leave them alone most of the time its not worth it to get into trouble and have their lasting reputations on me.

Answer 8

u know i have friends like that too and i also am smart and i didnt get influenced into doing that stuff i talk to them and i help them by talking to them in a nice way i helped my friend stop doing drugs.=]

Answer 9

Be smart and don't hang out with them. You have to be on your guard when you are with them and it will only take one moment of weakness for you to try it. And they might not enjoy or want your company if you don't join them having "fun".

Answer 10

are you ******* retarded? what does it mean to "do beer"? if you ask me it sounds like your brain is more shot than people who actually do drugs and DRINK alcohol.

Answer 11

well i had friends that did drugs, smoked, had s*x and other stuff. got high. and they asked me to do it. and i said no. and im happy i made that choice. so they told me they didnt want to be my friend. but that was where they went wrong. they are begging me to be friends with them, but im also going into 9th grade and EVERYONE hates them.