How can you decide the life you want to live when nothing makes sense?

Question

I just passed a very difficult point in my life where I became confused, de-moraled, and far off track with myself and goals. In high school, I was someone everybody looked up to. Played sports, member of 11 different clubs and adacemic organizations, the ladies loved me, I had everything going for me. I had a full tuition paid scholarship for engineering to a private university, (and living here in florida) my first semester in school was when those hurricanes hit and affected everybody. Classes were cancelled for 2-3 weeks. It was stressful enough getting back on track that three students hung themselves in their dorms. If thats not bad enough, the transition from public to private school, the culture, being 17 years old and not living on campus made it all the more difficult. Eventually after trying my best at the time I stopped going to classes. It was a bad decision, but I coudn't handle it.

The following semester I enrolled in the community college, completed my associates

Answer 1

Firstly... Respect x you've given up smoking, drugs n s*x.......... boy!!!! dat's sumtin in itself x*x 1 ting at a time tho babe!!!

Hear hear Louis S and Astrolio.... hear what dem peeps are saying!!

Sounds like your punishing yourself ??? why??? wot for???

In life we all do crazy stuff.... then we come back to 'OURSelf'

So wot... you sampled bits n bobs ie. Drugs, alcohol, s*x etc etc.... Good on ya!!! NOW... you can leave that behind you and focus on what YOU want...

You've re-enrolled in college... Is it really an avenue you wish to embark on........ "dont sound like it to me"

Babe... trust in yourself cos already you've shown me (by what you've said) that you have great stamina... a fantastic mind and the utmost worth.......... Go for it..... believe in yourself and follow your value's in life x respek 2 you x you've faced n fronted some challengin c**p already and you dont even realise it.........

Chin up and best foot forward... You can be anything you wish to BE... JUS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF x enuf love x

Answer 2

Deciding the life you want to live, is not something we do one evening over coffee and donuts.  For most people life just happens.

The best thing I can suggest to you is that you try different things.  Different types of jobs. Associate with different types of people. Through experiencing different things, you will find out what brings you happiness and personal satisfaction.

And, congratulations on going back and getting your associates.  Maybe later, you will decide that it would be personally satisfying to finish a B.A.  Or maybe you will decide on starting your own business of some sorts.

Stay out of trouble.  Do things that bring you positive self-worth and you will be OK.

Answer 3

LIFE doesn't make sense, period. It usually never does, it probably never will. But if we were to really work hard towards what we want in this life, we're sure to get it! You've just got to be determined enough, motivated enough, & you're set to go! Don't worry, life has it's obstacles, but they're just all God's tests, & we're always able to pass & learn from them all! :)

Answer 4

Ask someone who you respect and admire for guidance. If you don't have access to someone like you can imagine what they might tell you. You can also ask yourself, looking back from the distant future, what decision you'd feel best about. Would you be proud, ashamed, regretful?

Finally, it's good to delay a big decision until you're feeling reasonably well. When you're anxious/tired/upset you'll tend to make poor decisions.

Answer 5

I've had a lot of times where i was near what you're feeling now, i call it circling the bottom of the drain. i went from high school to training for three years to be a police officer, after passing the academy tests and physicals i had to deal with classes being canceled. my answer was to enlist, the USMC discharged my because i have a heart condition. not long after i went in to the painters union and after about two years i had an accident and as a result iv lost 90% of the use of my right arm. its been 18 months so far. im not telling you this to say i have it worse then you, because i dont believe in doing that. whats hard for one person may not be for others. but what got me through all the confusing and hard times was the fact that i try to find something to enjoy about everything around me. find what youre good at and what you love. then try and find out if you could do it for a living. try not to dwell on the bad things that happened or will happen, try to enjoy everyday. honestly i wish you luck

Answer 6

This doesn't sound like a question. It sounds to me like you have everything worked out. Bad things happen to the best of us.

Answer 7

I've felt exactly like you for about 5 months now and have encountered extremely similar situations. My grandfather just died and I was closer to him than anyone, and I saw him almost everyday. The odd part is that I can't cry or even feel emotion. Like I've said, I've felt this way for about 5 months I just didn't know it was that bad til about 2 weeks ago. This may not be you but, I feel absolutely desensitized and I believe that this is a defense mechanism from by body combating my depression. I'm thinking about getting a medication for depression and getting my life back on track.

I don't think that anyone can give your question an answer that is sufficient to what you may be looking for, but just try to look at nature and the big picture and maybe even get some religion in your life(which I am giving a shot) and surround yourself with sensible people and try to create a stable environment. Work hard at your job and try to complete things that you think will make you more successful. It's tough, but you'll get out of this rut.