How can you def. LOVE?

Question

Tell me how you def. LOVE

Answer 1

I would define love as a deep care for another person. You will have their back no matter what and you can share anything with them.

1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.  

2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.  

3. sexual passion or desire.  

4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.  

5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?  

6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.  

7. sexual intercourse; copulation.  

8. (initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.  

9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.  

10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.  

11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.  

12. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.  

13. Chiefly Tennis. a score of zero; nothing.  

14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.  

–verb (used with object) 15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her.  

16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).  

17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.  

18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.  

19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.  

20. to have sexual intercourse with.

Answer 2

'What in the world is the difference between loving a person and being selfishly attached to them? Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy, and to be free from suffering.

Having realistically recognized others' kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest, or to fulfill our desires; to love others simply because they exist. Selfish attachments, on the other hand, exaggerates others' good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we're with them, we're happy, but when we're separated from them, we are often miserable. These selfish attachments are linked with expectations of what others should be or do. Is love as it is usually understood in most societies really love? or selfish attachments ? Let's examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes mindfully, and carefully - we'll notice that we look for specific qualities in others.  Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value. We examine someone's looks, education, financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us.  In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us! If they help us, praise us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick or depressed, we consider them good people, and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to.  But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to "us", as if we are the most important person in the world. After we've judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them. Desiring to be with the people a lot who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo's - when we're with these people, we're up, when we're not with these people, we're down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we're very disappointed, or may become angry. We want them to change so that they will they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people. Our problems arise not because others aren't who we thought they we're, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they aren't.

Checklist: "I Love You if __________ "

What we call love is most often selfish attachments.

It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person. We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person.

'Love, on the other hand, is an open. calm and relaxed attitude. We want someone to be happy, and free from suffering simply because they exist. While selfish attachments are uncontrolling and too sentimental while Love is direct and powerful. Selfish attachments obscures our judgment and we become jealous, impatient, angry, and impartial, helping only our dear ones and harming those who we don't like. Love clarifies our minds, and we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachments are based on selfishness, while Love is founded upon cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to the eyes. Love looks beyond all the superficial appearances, and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want inner peace, happiness, and want to avoid suffering. If we see unattractive, dirty, ignorant people, we feel repulsed because our selfish minds want to know attractive, intellectual, clean, and talented people. Love, on the other hand, never evaluates others by these superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others' appearances, their experience is the same as ours: they seek inner peace-to be happy, to be free from sufferings, and want to do their best to avoid problems.  When we're selfishly attached, we're not mentally and emotionally free. We overly depend on and cling to another person to fulfill our mental and our emotional needs. We fear losing the person, feeling we'd be incomplete without him.  However, this does not mean that we should suppress our emotional needs or become aloof, alone and totally independent, for that too does not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs, and slowly seek to eliminate them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others rather than to understand them. In all honesty, our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfishness obscuring our own minds.  

'We can develop self-confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a selfless human being with many, magnificent qualities, then we'll develop a true and accurate feeling of self-confidence. And  then we'll seek to increase true unconditional love, without selfish attachments, to increase compassion, wisdom and to cultivate loving-kindness, patience and understanding. Under the influence of selfish attachments we're bound by our emotional reactions to others. When they are nice to us, we're happy. When they ignore us, or speak sharply to us, we take it personally and are unhappy. But pacifying these selfish attachment doesn't mean we become hard-hearted. Rather, without selfish attachment there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. We'll be actively involved with them. As we learn to subdue our selfish attachments, we can have successful friendships and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer because of the freedom and respect which the relationships will be based on. We'll care about the happiness and the misery of 'all' human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same in wanting/needing inner peace and happiness. However, our lifestyles and interests may be more compatible with those of some people more so than with others and that is alright. In any case, our relationships will be based on mutual love, mutual interests, and the wish to help each other in life.'

Answer 3

I don't think you can define love because it is different for everyone, but you will know it when you find it.