How can you erase something from your mind that hurt you?

Question

I am getting divorce from a 10 years horrible marriage, I gave everything I had on this relation I didn't want to failed again (this is my third divorce) he knew it and he took advantage of my feelings and make my life miserable for the last 3 years, he was drinking all the time, mentally and physical abusing me, he was ridiculous with the money at the end he even wanted me to pay for his things not to mention that he put a restraining order against me claiming domestic violence! they kick me out of the house and he stayed there for 10 days before we went to court and the case was dismiss by the judge before this he wasn't even living with me for 3 weeks, he made the accusation because I took all his things and put it in the garage and changed the house locks. My mind keep passing all the bad experience and still can't believe someone can do something like this to someone that has done many things for him I am sure I don't love him any more but it hurts to feel betrayed and used - how can I stop this film coming to my brain like a movie with all the bad memories and feeling sorry not for him but for me!

Answer 1

get up,get dressed and go out!

Answer 2

Watch "you can heal your life" by Louise Hay

Read "A new earth" by Eckhart Tolle

That is a start in the right (new) direction to help you.  

Answer 3

Get a hobby or go out with friends. Times will get better. Another thing, after 3 marriages stay single for awahile. We women do not need men to make us happy. Live alone and do as you please without having someone to answer to.

Answer 4

Start by making a commitment to yourself instead of another person. Try buying a journal and writing all the hurtful things that happened to you in it. When you finish writing, tell yourself that this is the end of the hurt and the pain, and burn the journal. It's a way of getting it all out and starting over. But before you get married again, seek some counseling and learn to love,honor and cherish yourself above all others, and that will be the surest way to heal. I truly hope you find some peace. Good luck!

Answer 5

The memories will last, but your anger will fade. It takes a long time and effort on your part not turn burn up inside over it, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, I promise.

You can forgive, but you can never forget.

I applaud you for having the strength to leave. You go girl!

Answer 6

only time.. you need to figure out why you have had 3 divorces.. obviously you have not figured out what "your issue" is.. you need to take time and figure your self out.. what you want, who you are, etc.. if you don't, the same thing will happen again...  

Answer 7

Electro-shock therapy.

Why is it that if you know instantly that someone is "the one" for you, it takes 10 years to figure out they're not?

Answer 8

It sounds like you really gotten taken advantage of! Sorry to hear that you will never be able to forget this think of it as a learnign experiance and try to move on. You have been married 3 times maybe it is time to go for a different kind of man to  

Answer 9

Time will heal all wounds.  Just get out of this relationship and be happy that you are finally free.  

Answer 10

Sorry but there are no quick cures for what you are going through.  Counseling would help.  Al-non meetings will help as well.  It takes time.  Burn your wedding album.  Do things like that.  

Answer 11

there are bad people out there. it is not your fault. Be true to yourself and be happy that you walked away. Time will heal you. That is just how it works. Walk away and get on with your life and it will be fine. It is his loss anyway.