How can you forget about

Question

My friend asked me this question, she lives with me and she loves this man and he loves her, However he is married with 2 children and is building a house.. on the other hand he isn't happy.. i don't know what she really wants.. so i told her just to forget about him and she asked me how.. and i'm asking you, how do you make yourself forget about someone you love and you know that they love you but there's no future?

Answer 1

No future means just that so continuous thought about an impossibility is irrational & possibly obsessive. Perhaps she is finding it difficult to let go because she can't face living without the fantasy any more.

I hope this helps. Best wishes to you & your friend, UK

Answer 2

The best thing...try to find someone else who loves u like crazy ASAP. Thats the fastest, easiest and most efficient way of getting out of this situation.

(i've been trying it since 7 years but still trying...dont ever give up!)

Answer 3

i don't think she can completely forget about someone (without the help of a concussion or something like that). This person will always be in her subconscious (that is she might not always think about them but when prompted, you can pull that memory back and consciously think about it). I think that over time, constant thoughts about this person will decrease as life goes on and she meets new people, goes new places, new memories are made, etc.

honestly, i think the best thing to do is to not mention it because eventually, she'll bury him in the back of her mind. and every once in awhile, she'll probably think about it, but not as often.

it's kind of like having a crush on someone in high school. eventually, you got over it right?

it just takes time.

Answer 4

find someone else, many people believe that we do not chose the people we fall in love with. this is false we do! and we can chose to fall out the same way!