How can you help prevent your child from having s*x at an early age?

Question

I am hearing too many parents these days saying "I can't control my teenage son/daughter from doing whatever he or she is going to do so I might as well just hand them condoms and tell them to be careful."

Personally I think there can be other solutions. What are some ways you can help as a parent to keep them out of trouble?

Answer 1

Well Sure there is.. & no I don't think that having them escorted 24/7 is  the right way to go! Your child will feel controlled, out cast & different from other kids that will only cut them off from you completely & make them resent you.

Phsycology is a funny thing. The more controlling you are towards your kids the more they will push away from you.. like two negative magnetes..

The only thing you can really do to keep your kids out of drugs  early s*x etc.. I would say would be to keep an open relationship with your kids. Don't hide them from the truth, don't shelter them, let them know what drugs can do to kids, let them know that they are valuble, teach them about self respect & that it's not "cool" to hurt yourself.. teach them that it's "cool" to be yourself.

When they are a bit older (final year) tell them that the "cool kids" of today are the ones who didn't focus in school & pay attention to the importatnt things in life so they end up no where after school.. & looking "not so cool" .

I don't know.. It is a tough one...Just lots of love..& especially LISTEN to your kids (mostly to what they DON'T say!!)

Answer 2

there really isnt any other solutions. If you start to crack down on your child telling them not to have s*x then theres a good chance they will become rebellious and do it anyway just because you told them not to.

however, handing them condoms is not the way to go.

the best thing you can do, is seriously sit down and ask your child if they think they can be a parent for a little baby. Explain the circumstances, what is involved, and how it could ruin their life. Then let them make their own choice.

a child who learns for his/her own mistakes will be wiser than one who never had the experience because s/he was not allowed.

Answer 3

I think honesty is the best way. If all you do is talk about "the dangers of s*x" i.e. pregnancy and STDs, then a teen who's found out about condoms is highly likely to think "okay, I've got those covered, so there's no problem now". It also gives the mixed message that s*x is bad and dangerous for THEM, while it's natural and good once you're mature. Of course they want to be mature! So they want to believe that they are ready to have s*x.

Personally I think the best thing is not to focus on being ready to have s*x at all, but to focus on being ready to have kids. No birth control method is 100%. So until getting pregnant would not be a disaster you really should not have s*x.

Answer 4

first off i am no parent, only a child of one who has kept his pants zipped. I have many many friends who have not. I personally believe the difference was parent raising. in that, s*x as never a secret. My mother is a STD doctor for the city and before that a delivery nurse. I have seen birthing, contraceptives, i knew how tampons worked since the third grade. I knew all about s*x, birth, bleeding etc from a young age, it was taught as just a natural part of life like eating or farting. There was no taboo, no lure of the unkown. I believe that is what me not care so much like other kids, who wanted to know more, explore etc. The fog of the unkown is so luring to curious kids. I think openness along with morals and good frends will keep pants zipped.

Answer 5

talk to them and tell them it has a price

Answer 6

Those are bad parents!

Of course there are solutions...

First of all talking to your child about the dangers of s*x at an early age will be really helpful. Talk to them while they're still young so that they would actually listen to you. I'm a teenager and my mom used to tell me the dangers of s*x at a young age and guess what it did stayed in my mind. I'm not having s*x until the right time comes. If my mom tell me these stuffs now that I'm a teenager I highly doubt that I'll listen to her. So talk to them while they're still young and i know you're a great mom cause you care!!

Answer 7

I think a lot of kids that have s*x young (not all) are looking for love. Let your kids know they are loved, teach them about s*x and why it is worth waiting and don't leave them alone with the opposite s*x long enough to do anything...worst case but a good lock or look up the closest nunnery lol

when it comes down to it kids have to make their own choices and you raise them in a way to hope they make the right one

Answer 8

all you can do is talk to them about s*x, your teen is going to have s*x if he/she wants too. if you get them accopined to classes they are never going to forgive you,

ask your teen to talk to you whne they are thinking about becoming sexualy active

you need to talk to them about birthcontrol if they are thinking about becoming active other then that there is not much you can do

Answer 9

There's tons of things you can do..

Like someone else said, talk to your kids about the dangers of s*x. Pregnancy, stds, etc.

You can also give them a real baby for a couple days (or a fake one). The fake one at school made a  lot of girls go "I'm not having a baby for a long time!" The fake pregnancy thing also.

Don't just hand a child a condom and be their "bff". which is what those parents who can't control their kids are. Any parent can control their kid if their child knows they are in charge. Saying "a child is going to do what a child is going to do, so hand them a condom" or whatever, is exactly the reason teenagers and kids are the way they are these days. If they should be allowed to make all their decisions, what are parents REALLY for?

A lot of the teens out there having s*x, wanting babies, etc. are just looking for love in all the wrong places. Maybe they don't get enough attention from their bff "parents", or they were molested as a child, I don't know,. but there are ways to teach children about the dangers of s*x.

I hate how it's so normal for children to be having s*x nowadays. Babies having babies. I'm still young myself (barely an adult) and I never did half of the stuff these kids do.

Answer 10

first of all... go and slap those parents.

secondly, yes there is a way... you can actually go to your childs school and talk to their counselor and tell them that you want your child on contract. they have to attend everyclass, be signed in & out of school by people on a list, and they cant leave the classroom unless accompanied. thats just one suggestion.