How can you make peace with something that's bad and in your past but made you who you are?

Question

How can you make peace with something that's bad and in your past but made you who you are?

Answer 1

Who you are today is just a piece of what has happened. Everyday we have an opportunity to make life better for ourselves and others! So although it may have made some of you it doesn't make all of you! Each individual is a great person, some choose to let the past define who they are and some people decide to use it as a tool to be a better person than the one who hurt us or the foolish decision we have made!..Whats great is that we have that chance as long as we are here each day to take it!

Making peace is not forgiveness necessarily of someone who hurt us or forgetting what we may have done  it is REMEMBERING that each day is a day we have to build, to love, to be loved, to bond, to share,,So the best way in the world to make peace is to decide to be at peace forgive yourself or forget the act that someone did to you but only forgive your inner child..and take each day and make good choices for your future and leave the past in the past!

Best to you..

Answer 2

Well the way you word it, it sounds as if you like who you turned out to be.  This is an interesting question and I think what you are saying is that something negative and big happened in your life and you know that this event changed you.  You resent the event but feel like an improved person as a result it.

If that's what you mean, I feel your quandary.  The 3 worst things in my life have happened in the last year and a half, but I can confidently say I'm a better person for it.  I'm a strong believer of things happening for a reason and if you're strong enough you will only grow.  

You probably gained perspective somehow.  it's hard to say without not knowing what happened, but if it's anything like my cases, they were terrible things that happened and at the time it seemed like my life was falling apart, but guess what it didn't and I know I won't fall into those mistakes again and most importantly I am able to help people with similar problems and guide them through their tough times.

You got through whatever it was. It was a bad thing but you wouldn't be you without it and although you shouldn't be thankful that it happened I think you should be thankful that you were strong enough to grow and learn from it. I

f you are talking about a specific person, tell them how it effected you at the time and what it made you go through.  Air it out so you don't have it weighing on your soul.

I guess there's a few assumptions in my answer, but I hope that helps!

Answer 3

You gotta start with yourself.  Making peace with someone else is about coming to grips with who you are first.  When you learn to become accepting of others in the way they turned out, you become open-minded and in turn, accept yourself first.  

All the rest trickles down.  

Keep in mind that once you become an adult, you are responsible for continuing the way you were "raised" and staying immature, or learning to become a whole person,becoming mature, and picking up positive/new characteristics along the way.

Answer 4

Well, once i realized that "bad" person made me, it would be pretty easy for me to make peace with him, i mean what would be the problem if it is he who has done bad to me and i know that i have forgiven him somehow