How can you stop a 7yr old from lying...???

Question

How can you stop a 7yr old from lying...???

Answer 1

This is very tricky, because lying is a sign of intelligence.  The level of moral conscience is not yet developed enough in a 7 yr old to understand the wrongness of lying.  Kids probably lie because they've figured out the cause and effect of certain actions, like, if they hit their little sister, they'll get punished. So to avoid punishment, they'll create lies of varying complexity.  

I've found that not freaking out when my kid does something wrong works pretty well. Instead calmly discuss the consequences of the action itself (your sister can get hurt when you hit her and that is a bad thing so you shouldn't do it), and giving a timeout if needed mostly to calm down an angry or upset kid, rather that timeouts for punishment.  The rights and wrongs of actions take time, maturity and calm loving repetition for the child to understand.

Same with lying itself, if you catch the kid in a lie, don't freak out about it or they will get better and better at hiding stuff.  Best to calmly explain the problems caused by lying, giving examples.  Remember it takes time, repetition and maturity level.  Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Well firstly I will tell you that lying is a natural thing that all children do.  Believe it or not lying is a survival instinct which all children have. The key is to teach them that lying is not at all OK.

I would do the following. NEVER ever lie openly in front of your child. Children need to be shown a good example at all times! Monkey see monkey do!

I would explain, in a conversational and not confrontational way, the difference between a good lie and a bad lie, example, It is OK, not to tell grandma that we are planning a surprise party for her birthday, but it is not OK to lie and say that you did not break the vase.

I would reward honesty. If your child has done something bad, and you ask him or her, "Did you pull the puppy's tail?" and he or she is honest, and admits what he or she has done, I would praise the act of honesty, as well as punish the act of puppy abuse!

Never EVER let your child get away with lying to you. Even if it is a small harmless lie, remember to always tell them that it is not OK to lie!!!

That's all I got for now!

Answer 3

try taking away the thinks that he likes everytime you catch him in a lie or making him write about why he lied.

Answer 4

Catch him in the lie.

Show him the proof that he is caught.

SPANK HIM!  That will get his attention.

Inform him that each lie will get him another spanking.

Follow through.  If he lies again, spank him again.

He will get the message.

BTW, taking away things, restricting TV, "time-outs", and other non-parenting nonsense will not work. Those things are all from the debunked Dr. Spock works.

Answer 5

Well, first off I would sit down and have a talk with her. Ask her why she lies to you and then explain to her why lying is bad and explain to her about how can you ever believe her when she is telling the truth about something. Then tell her your new rules you will be enforcing. Also tell her that if she will tell you the truth her punishment will be small( that is if she is lying about something she wasn't supposed to do) but if she lies to you then her punishment will be big and something she really won't like. When she does lie to you ask her more questions about her lie and remind her of her punishment if she does lie to you and give her another opportunity to tell you the truth and if she still chooses to lie then give her, her punishment. I would take privileges away from her like t.v. or playdates or video games, whatever she likes to do the most. Or you could give her an earlier bed time if she lies to you. She is probably just lying to you to get whatever attention she can get even if that means negative attention. Also tell her that if she can just tell you the truth then you can set aside a special time to spend with her and play games or something. If you try rewarding her when she tells you the truth that might work too. I know it can be frustrating but just hang in there and stick to your rules you give her and stick through the punishment as well, don't give in to her when she begs you to take her punishment away b/c then it won't work. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Highly unlikely... Hope they grow out of it!!! Try taking privileges away from them every time they lie. Ground them.. Spankings... Good luck!!!

Answer 7

By applying heat to the kids seat

Answer 8

Do yourself a favor,go on line google mama rocks rules.It will tell you everything you need to know.Trust me,it works.

Answer 9

One of my kids went through a lying phase when he was around 5.  He's now one of the most honest kids you'll run into.

Some things you can do:  (1) make a point of portraying integrity as one of your main family values.  praise people (not just your son, but others, as well) for being honest when it's difficult to do so.  read books where honesty and integrity are important themes (ask your librarian for suggestions).  discuss your own moral dilemmas as they come up and explain to your son why you're choosing to be honest even though it's hard.  (2) make sure that your punishments aren't so harsh that your son feels like he has to lie to protect himself.  (3) praise your son for telling the truth, especially when it's hard to do so.  (4) consistently discipline your son for not telling the truth, separately from the discipline for whatever they did wrong in the first place.  (5) if you feel you need an additional motivator (you may not, and if not, don't do this one):  consider starting a penny jar and putting a penny in on days when your son has been honest the whole day.  take a penny out each time he's not truthful.  have some sort of special activity with a parent as a reward for getting a certain number of pennies.

Answer 10

Disipline and talks loss of privlidges

Answer 11

Kids do have to be disciplined...so have a talk first and let you kid know how dangerous lying can be and that no matter how made they think you might be they need to always tell the truth no matter what...

Go back to the cry wolf story....keep lying and no one including you will never be able to believe him/her......

***Encourage truth telling....test your kid, set something up were you can know right away if he/she is lying or telling the truth...if he/she tells the truth give praise for telling the truth with a small treat, until they can break the lying habit..

Good luck!!

Answer 12

all my life i lied so i wouldnt get in trouble so if u make them feel like they arent in big trouble if they tell u the truth then they wont be so afraid to tell the truth to this day i do that im not gonna tell the truth if i think im gonna be in trouble i just cant help it

Answer 13

my brother's that age, and my mom just always says "You know, my heart hurts very much when you lie to me. And even if I don't know you're lying, Santa does." lol but try it!

Answer 14

good luck on that one. My daughter likes to lie too.

Answer 15

When our 8 year old lied to us- we lied right back, said we would go to a water park on the weekend. Then when she asked about it we said oh sorry we lied about that. She opened up her mouth to say something, then looked at me, and went upstairs. I can't say she never ever lied to me again but it was rare and far between.