I can't forgive myself for somethng I did a few years ago, because I'm scared that I'm either stupid or crazy. I can't stop torturing myself. I love my best friend, and I keep wondering if everything would have worked out if I had done things differently, and I'm scared I've lost him forever. We met in college, when I was studying aborad in his country. We became best friends, and spent all our time with each other, but that's it, we were just friends. Then, I returned to the US, graduated from college, and a year later I went down to Mexico to visit him. We spent lots of time together, and he asked if we could be more than friends. I had really fallen for him by then. I didn't reject him, and I don't even remember what I said, but I really liked him as more than a friend and wanted to eventually return to Mexico. But I was scared that if I got into a long distance relationship with him, it would ruin our friendship. I returned to the US, and we talked on Messenger every night and for awhile it was like we were in a relationship. he knew that I wanted to return to Mexico to live eventually. I was without a computer for a long time, and I had access to email... and for several months I went with no news from him, but last fall I was on messenger again and found out that he has a serious girlfriend. He never said anything to me about it before...
What makes me crazy, is wondering if things would have worked out if I had done things differently. I am so scared that I am going to be single the rest of my life because of a stupid mistake and it's torturing me to madness to know that I could have had a true and lasting love. I know in my heart that he's meant for me, and that I can never love anyone else. Even if there were some other guy, I doubt that I will ever have the chance to study in Mexico for a substantial amount of time again. I'm 29, and time is running out, and there won't be chances to meet anyone else. I wish and wish I could have another chance. What is wrong with me that when I made this terrible mistake, I didn't realize I was ruining my life?
Have I lost him for good? He still thinks of me as a best friend and says that he cares about me so much and it would kill him to lose my friendship. There will never be anyone else as special to me as he is and I keep wishing and wishing I could go back in time.
Why am I so stupid?
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