How can you trust someone who has only showed you dishonesty?

Question

I have been talking to a guy for 2 years off and on... I'm a virgin so he's been waiting around for me(kind of)... But I encourage him to have s*x with others so that he doesn't pressure me... He wants to be my boyfriend but I know that we aren't ready for that... At least i am not...He lies about not having s*x with females. I know that he is having s*x... He recently admitted what I already knew. But know he tells me that he has a 1yr old son... I wasn't upset about him having a child but i was upset that he kept that from me... But when I told him how I felt he denied it all and said he was just telling me what I wanted to hear. But I believe that what he claims to be lies is the truth and what he claims to be the truth are lies... This is really stressing me out... How can I be in a relationship with the guy if the pre-relationship is full of lies... But over 2yrs of knowing him i am attached to him and I think that i love him... I don't know what to do. My heart says talk to him about how i feel and give him another chance but my mind says ditch him, once a liar always a liar...HELP!!!

Answer 1

If you aint giving it up hes going to go else where, come on hes a guy. start givin him head and h**l stay with you. nobody likes a indecisive girl

Answer 2

Stop wasting time with him. He's not worth one second of your life.  

Answer 3

your to good for this guy find some one else

Answer 4

Hi, turning the page is useless, the best way possible, is definetely

to torn the page.

Who's next.

Answer 5

Huge red flag!!!  Lying is the ultimate reason for splitting up.  If he will lie about that now, what else will he lie about.  I learned it the hard way.  Take your heart and give it to a man that truly deserves it.  

Answer 6

It's two years PAST time to move on from this guy....cut all ties, and move on. He is a pathological liar...and THAT would drive you nuts!! You could NEVER trust him, ever!

Answer 7

I agree with Peggy S.   Time to cut him loose before you really get hurt.  You deserve better.  Listen to your head, not your heart.  

Answer 8

You've answered your own question.  'Has only shown you dishonesty' so of course you can't trust him.

He wants to be your boyfriend aye?   You're a bit of a challenge for him, thats why he's sticking around ... keeping you on a string.

No wonder you are stressing out.  How can you ditch someone that you aren't even with?  

He sounds awful.  He admitted he had a child, but when you showed you're unhappy that he hid it from you, he then lies and says he doesn't really have a child!  Oh my God. He hid something so major from you.  Can you imagine all the other stuff he's hidden.  

You sound like a decent girl.  Way too decent for the likes of him.  Save yourself for someone honest and genuine.

I  don't understand why you are so 'attached' but not ready for him as a boyfriend?  And you encourage him to have s*x with other girls?

Forget about what your heart says, and use your head.  Cut off and put your energy into a functional friendship.

  

Answer 9

You aren't in love with this guy, but you probably THINK you are because of your two year emotional investment in him.  Believe me, if you were truly in love, you never would have encouraged him to have s*x with other women to keep him from pressuring you.

If you ever did get into a serious relationship with him, he is so addicted to lying that you would never be able to trust him.  Ironically, one of the main parts of a real lasting relationship is honesty and trust, which you basically have never had in this 2 year emotional relationship.

Do what you want, but you are just begging to be used abused and thrown by the wayside once he gets what he wants from you.

Best wishes.

Answer 10

The sad part about this is if you had s*x with him he would most likly dump you. He is not a good person dump him first