How can you trust the man your dating?

Question

I'm single and I think man are nothing but liars and cheaters. How do you the man your won't leave for the a girl who's slightly better than you? Or if cheats on you? How do you know if he's just using, misusing, and abusing you? F@gs how you know he wont leave you behind?

Answer 1

I have the ACTUAL answer to this question:

preface- I was having this same conversation with a really good girl friend of mine (who is like a sister), and, while I wanted her to fall in love and get a boyfriend and be happy, the reality is, to get a loyal man, you have to get lucky.

Most girls get cheated on. Just because you haven't caught your mate in the act of cheating, doesn't mean he's not doing it; he's just good at hiding it.

Unless, of course, you date a desperate loser--which is twice as worse because it is a psychotic form of loyalty.

In short, you just cannot KNOW. You have to take a leap of faith (but I'm sure you know by now where faith has gotten you). That is, you have to get lucky- sorry.

You would better yourself by viewing a relationship as a temporary experience: if it lasts, it lasts; if it doesn't, it doesn't.  

As for you, you are either mad at men because you're lonely and never had a boyfriend, or mad because a boyfriend mistreated you. But you should just let yourself go and find a boyfriend. If you are having trust issues, get a friend with benefits.

Women are not angels either.  

Answer 2

We get the world and the man we expect to get. That's how strong our faith is.

Answer 3

trust is earned, and you must take the chances, and cut the losses. If there were assurances in life, wouldn't it be great, but we don't operate that way. even the best scenario can change along the way, so protect yourself, but give the other guy a chance.

Answer 4

Trust means nothing nowadays...  Just look at the tv.  MONEY is everything.  

Answer 5

I personally believe in trusting a person until they give you a reason not to.  If you are going to worry about situations that haven't happened yet, you are actually setting you and your partner up to fail.  Not all men are liars and cheats and I'm sure you've had some bad experiences, but try not to take it out on the next guy---he might be the one?!  You never know and have to take a chance.

Answer 6

To women, there is no man who's completely trust worthy.

But...most of the reasons you're having those feelings is either because you focus too much on other relationships whether they are actually yours, a friends...family.

You're not right for anyone else unless you're right for yourself.

If you don't have confidence in yourself you'll never be happy and you'll never attract a man who is going to treat you with respect.

I've been in all of those types of relationships and it's terrible. But, I had to give into my fears and break them down. No one is perfect but if I have faith in myself and my judgment the odds of a greater man are more likely. There isn't a cure for bad men or those that are jerks...but love is a gamble, sometimes ya win. Sometimes ya lose. It's a terrible fact of life but believe in the man you're with. Talk to him and keep the relationship fun and serious when needed. Keep the lines of communication open and discuss issues. If you're able to open up about things the less likely anger and frustration will cause things to end up badly.

  

Answer 7

Trusting is a thing that comes to you gradually...

You can't say u're ready to live with somebody all your life if do you know him only a few days/ weeks...Just don't give all your heart to a person who u love but don't know so much...Yeah, there are people who you may not know even that u live with them all your life, but the only way to keep you from suffering is half:to listen to your mind and half: to your heart.

Answer 8

Before reading the detail, I sensed that you don' t trust the man. Even if you trusted him, he may betray that trust, nothing to do about that. So you could only trust that he wouldn't. As it is, you either accept that men will be what they are and take the risk, or drop men altogether. That does not mean you have no choice other than become g*y. I am not!

Answer 9

Trust your intuition. If you sense he is untrustworthy do not date him. If you feel a trust to him, give him a chance.

Answer 10

It works both ways, if this is your mindset when dating your wishing it to happen. Have trust and faith in a relationship and is unlikely to happen. Negative mindset will result in it happening!

Answer 11

It is sad to say today dating is  more like killing time a form of entertaiment  not considerate to be a serious thing.You need to look beyond the superficial traits ...to answer the question if this person is right for you.

You need to know yourself well.What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses then you will be better equipped to find someone who will complement you..Suppose you want to bye a pair of new shoes you find a pair that you like but much to your dissapointment

they are too tight.The better choice is to find  the one that is comfortable no pain  when you walk around.

You need to discern the secret person of the heart  1Peter 3:4 Ephesians 3:16

Note how this person handle conflits what happens when you disagree

Does he insist on his ways giving in to fits of anger or abusive speech

or he show reasonableness.Watch for the red flags like manipulative possessive or jealous ,demanting.Focus on personality and conduct and reputation.How is the way he treats his family and friends ...

What are his goals,what  does he talks about ..what type of entertaiment does he enjoy ,is he well report on?is he considerate of others..does he need to use alcohol or drugs to have a good time

is he self centered...

What positive qualities does he have

The list goes on  but if you do not settle for less you will find the one who you can trust.

I always like this illustration  how you will know you have a real diamond or a imitation ?You need to study and have knowledge of the precious stone and then you will be able to see which one is false.

Get to know  people before you get your heart involve is very important

I have been  in your shoes but i learn to wait for the right one.

Answer 12

If you think that all men are cheaters and liars, then I guess you should have relationships with women.     But you'll find an equal number of women are liars and cheats.

Perhaps you could join a convent, but even nuns can be liars and cheats.

Answer 13

... you don't really trust, you just act like it. -- until your suspicions come true ;)

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