How come I beat myself up?

Question

Whenever I get mad, I cannot control and and start breaking, hitting, and throwing objects. I stopped doing that, but now I beat myself up. I start smacking myself on my head very hard, punch my thighs, tear at my face. What is going on?!

Are there any other alternatives than a psychologist? They never worked for me, and I've gone about 4-5 times, and it is a waste of money.

Answer 1

You might want to see if a therapist can offer some insight.  4-5 times probably isn't enough time -- or maybe you've been going to the wrong one(s)

Also, give your domestic violence hotline a call and ask if they can refer you to anger management classes.

In the meantime, perhaps you can expend this excess energy in a positive way:  get out and walk hard, take a run, go to the gym and use the machines, grab a big paintbrush and paint a huge canvas in the garage, do jumping jacks, anything.

Answer 2

Maybe it's because you blame yourself for whatever your mad at and it's your way of punishing yourself. Try getting a stress toy instead of hurting yourself.

Answer 3

its because you get an adrenaline build up, try running around the block to use up that surge of energy, or go outside and hammer nails into a tree stump

Answer 4

Go to church, you will be amazed.

Answer 5

Anger is a lot like fire. If there's no extinguisher, then the fire won't go out. A lot of people are like that. You need to stop, take a deep breath and think, will taking my anger out on objects and myself, really solve the problem. Usually anger stems from frustration. If you just take a step back and look at the problem, then usually the anger subsides.