How come I lack emotions?

Question

Ever since I turned around 19-20, I notice I lack any real emotions anymore.

My grandpa died, and I didn't cry. My dog died, and I was sad but I actually let out a small smile in front of my family, kinda like the smile was saying it's weird he died.

Just about the only emotion I do feel a lot is hate. I joined a racist group years ago and especially dislike illegal immigrants.

How come I lack emotions now?

Answer 1

I am somewhat similar,

even when i was a kid,

For some reason i am not as soft as other people

alot of things that would scare other people,

like getting shot at, or having a car coming towards them.

For some reasons doesnt scare me,

i dont know what is it.

Were probebly more emotionally hardened then average people.

Answer 2

I have no clue but usually people lack emotions because they've become really good at suppressing them.  When real emotions begin to surface they simply shut down so it won't happen.  Usually this is a mechanism for avoiding intolerable emotions (whatever they are for you).  It's worth exploring with a professional what's driven you to be this way - if you think you're ready for that.  If you're fine with it then maybe now's not your time.  But I'm guessing you're rage will eventually catch up with you and somethings going to spill out that you've been keeping down for a long time.  Trust me, it won't stay there forever.

Answer 3

Hi

That's a good question! and perhaps you really do know the answer but, can't quite see it.

I haven't cried in years, but my reason being, I wasn't allowed to cry.

Having a superior above one, saying, 'don't cry' don't be mad' 'don't yell' don't be a baby' no one is going to help you...blah blah blah...

Sounds like you grew up with a power tripper.  I just escaped mine.  Life is hard.  Some people feel that way about illegal immagrants, they take our nations jobs, use our resources, and get state aid and people who are legally  here in America has to pay for it out of their paychecks.

Hate doesn't solve that problem, and we have no control of the situation unless people take the laws into their own hands which causes more grief.

I challenge you, to try and do things for you to make you feel good. What ever you like to do.Love your self first then maybe, you will begin to feel emotions gradually.  That's what I'm trying to do with my life right now.  Just to be able to feel and cry and then too, be happy...you alone have the power to change your self and have every right to find happiness within yourself.

Many Blessings

Katie

Answer 4

You've hardened yourself and blocked others out.  Maybe you were hurt by a lot of people in your past.  I know that I had a lot of people be very mean to me growing up and it made me not want to feel anything.   Feeling things actually takes a lot more out of you then not feeling anything.   You need to realize that the world is a bigger place then what you have experienced thus far, and that you have a lot of life to live.  A lot to give to others and most importantly, others have a lot to give to you.  Understand, that the world is not just about you and although you might have suffered others have suffered as much if not more, and make it through.  If you block out your feelings, you are weak.  A sign of being strong is a person who allows (yes allows) themselves to feel, and pain, hurt and disappointment is a part of all of that, you have to allow that to happen, and learn how to cope with that.  That is how you break the wall of ice that you've built around yourself to protect yourself from the pain.  Hurting is part of the human experience, and even though it sucks, we all hurt.  However, it makes the joy we feel that much sweeter.  It make the love we give far more true.   You have to take the good with the bad in life.  That's what life is, a lot of bad and some good, but if you block out your emotions you'll never feel the good parts and you'll just wallow in misery.  The fact that you are asking this question here, points to the fact that you realize that you have a problem.  I don't know what caused it, but I do know that you can change, and you can feel again if you so desire to.