How come black women are always complaining about not being able to find decent black men?

Question

I see a lot of complaints about this on Y!A. Why not date white, Asian, Native American, Hispanic guys?

Answer 1

Well I have never seen a question like this posted in this category but I'll go ahead and answer your question with what I've learned on the topic.

Generally speaking, people gravitate towards other's who are like them and who have shared similar experiences. That's why you see more black with black, white with white, asian with asian, etc. pairings.

Many people, while they may not be prejudice towards others of a different race would prefer to date someone of the same race because culturally it's much easier. When you hear a white women saying "Why can't I find a good guy?" They are usually referring to white men.

Many black women (and men) feel the only black men (and black women) can properly teach their children black history.

While we've become a more tolerant society, many are very opposed to interracial relationships and many of those who take part in these relationships are subject death threats, violent attacks, derision from peers,etc. Many families are also very intolerant of these relationships so a lot of men and women are hesitant to get involved in a relationship with someone of another race.

In recent years there has been a widespread movement, within the african-american community, that promotes "black love", meaning black men and women dating, marrying, reproducing and basically showing the world they are typical citizens instead of the thugs they are made out to be.

Plus speaking from strictly personal experience, all races of men(and women) play the same games

Of course, like everything there are hundreds of explanations but these are the most common ones I've run into.

Answer 2

These sorts of complaints are completely subjective and personal. Ask the women you encounter that make these complaints why they make them. I'm a black woman and have never made such a claim.

Answer 3

Because black women are stuck in a situation when they want a decent educated black man but they also want him to be a thug. And we all know such thing does not exist!

Answer 4

Don't think I've ever seen that complaint in this section.  If you want a real answer you should probably post this in the category you've seen it in.

Answer 5

Most black women only have dated black men so when they complain about a black men it mostly means that's all they know and cant speak for any other man cause they haven't dated them but in the end a man is a man regardless of race.

Answer 6

Heavy-set white women don't seem to have a problem finding decent black men.

Answer 7

For your information, I'm black and I never complain about not finding a black man because I don't even date them. Maybe you should stop generalizing and ask the individuals who ask such questions!

Answer 8

I agree with the first poster; it's never seen here, so why post this question here? Post where you actually see those comments, maybe you'll get better responses.

Answer 9

Because when a few black women complain about it, it means that all black women complain about it.

It also means that all black women think alike, and all want thugs.

Iol

Answer 10

I prefer my race and it seems like another races play the same games

Answer 11

why do some white women who grew up in the suburbs start dating a black man and the next day start talking in ebonics?

Answer 12

I'm a black woman & I don't complain about that. I opened my mind & now I'm seeing an Armenian guy so I have no doubts.

Answer 13

Blah Blah Blah.. Are you Serious? lol

It's  hard to find a GOOD man period!

RACE IS IRRELEVANT!!!!!

Why do ppl ask such stupid Questions?