How come everyone has found someone to love who loves them, but me?

Question

I'm 19 and I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. A spinster still living with her parents.

Answer 1

Seriously? You can't be serious, you're only 19, I have friends who haven't get married and they are in their late 20. Enjoy this stage in you life, get to know youself, your skills, what you like to do. Is to early to get depressed about not finding love.

Answer 2

You are only 19, there is plenty of time. I am 33 and nobody loves me at the moment....

Answer 3

Enjoy being single.  You can do so much.  You don't need some man in your life anyways.  Married and people in relationships are boring to be around anyways.  If you need a man to enjoy yourself then i'm sorry theres no hope.  

Answer 4

everyone feels that way at some point but ur young u shouldnt be worrying about that if but if you wanna meet some new ppl try an internet dating sites or go out to like a dance club sometimes they let under 21 in depending on the club and where u live just try and go out more and do fun things where you could meet some new guys ur not gonna be single forever ur young and indepent work with it bc its not gonna be that way forever ur not alone with the way u feel

Answer 5

Total nonsense!  You just haven't found the right one yet.  You make 19 sound over the hill.  You've got plenty of time to find someone.  These are the best years of your life so in the mean time, enjoy yourself!!!

Answer 6

Enjoy life the way it is, being single. love will come your way.  

Answer 7

deh day will come :P i just re-met an old neighbour of mine witch i hanged out with when we where kids before i moved away now she's 12 and i'm 15 and i'm in love with her and she sais she loves me too :D cought me kinda offguard when i saw her again haha xD well it happens when u least expect it i guess.it wouldn't be so fun if it wouldn't :P don't worry u'll find you pair :P maybe even ur best frend secretly loves u and waiting for right moment xD

Answer 8

Don't you believe it love!!!

I'm 30, have never been "in love" & even though I've been in 3 serious (+ 3 less serious) relationships I have never been told "I love you" where the person (I'm Bi) actually meant it, & that includes my fiance.

However, I moved out of my parent's @ 15, lived the life I wanted to lead, & by Christmas I'm planning on moving to Bristol (from London), & by next Christmas I plan on living in Germany.

I hate the fact that I'm single still, but all I do is focus on the benefits of the single-life. Doing what I want when I want. If I say to my friends "Hey let's go out" it's "Oh, I have to ask .... if it's ok" or "Oh I have to see if .... can make it" etc, & it drives me nuts!!!  Enjoy being single, take life by the horns & just do your own thing without it stressing you out!!

I also have a little spinster hermitage plan for my older years, with pleanty of room for my many (mostly surrogate) neices & nephews to come & visit!!

Answer 9

Awww hey gurly

Hey im 18 . turning 19 next year

and i havent found love! lolz! my first bf i had only for like 1 day haha!

But then when i came bak from overseas i saw that he was my long lost cousin so thank god we only texted eachother!

i know what you mean.. my auntie shes turning 18 in oct.. and shes pregnant. found love & getting married at the end of this month

My cousins hads heaps of bfs

my neice found her love shes 17 its like all my family members have found love

But from my experience love takes time

and that time is different with everyone

Gods timing is perfect so i can just be happy and dont worry

Good things come to those who wait

And you NEVER know cause youre love is just around the corner

have faith

If you believe you will see it coming :).

Answer 10

who said "everyone has found someone to love who loves them" ?

That is so not true! But anyway, maybe you have to change something about your self. It can either be the appereance or socializing methods, talking, flirting,....I don't know, ask your true friends;) Don't forget "The true ones" . Good Luck.

Answer 11

They haven't, and you won't be. It feels that way because of that whole hormonal urge to procreate. The truth is that in six months, at least half your friends will be broken up and tragical.

At 19 you feel very old in a way because there are a lot of categories that don't fit you any more, like, "prodigy" and "minor" and "adolescent". You have to make a bunch of big decisions, and everything you do now feels like it's going to matter so much forever. Listen to all the old people who tell you that you really are young. And if you can manage it, relax and concentrate on other things. It's true love comes when you're not looking, because desperate lonely people are scary.

Chill. It's going to get better.

Answer 12

Everyone feels like that - you're concentrating on the people you know who have someone - look around and you will see there are plenty of people who are alone.  when you get to 55 and still feel like this, then you can start to worry, but 19 - you are perfectly normal sweetie :)

xx

Answer 13

This is going to sound stupid, but it is true. "You can chase a butterfly around all day and you wont be able to catch it, once you turn you head and stop chasing, it will come and sit on your shoulder". You are 19 years old. I was pretty much the same as you when I was 19. I am 29 now (old Man, lol) and my life is infinitely better than what it was then. What I am saying is that, don't chase everything as it will happen when you least expect it. Mark my words. I am very rarely wrong, lol. (Modest too, lol)

Answer 14

oh my sweety! You are only 19.. One day you will wake up and your true love will be waiting on your door step... I am 27 have 2 children and am a single mom. There father walked out on them everytime he found out i was pregnant until i woke up and hit reality and seen i was better off without him... Your time will come for romance and when it does enjoy every moment for you never know if it will last.

Answer 15

   your only 19..... and your afraid your going to be alone forever? at this age you shouldn't worry about a boyfriend, you should focus on your goals, education and what you want for yourself....

   at 19 you got plenty of time to find a mate..... don't trip on a man....

you need to focus on you, a man will only stop you from accomplishing what you want to do with your life

Answer 16

Be thankful you made it to 19 without having to go through the agony of a failed relationship.

Answer 17

Your time will come.