How come falling in love with your best friend is so d**n hard?

Question

We've been best friends for six years.

everytime we needed someone, we're always there for each other. For 5 years i tried to stop myself from loving her.

but i wasn't that successful.

she knows that I have feelings for her.

I mean.. I do my best to be there for her.

I often go out of my way just for her.

We already talked about it.

Neither of us wanted to hurt each other..

so.. she decided not to go for it..

she said the last person she'd want to give up or to leave her was me.

I on the other hand believed that, we can stand if we just give it a try.

I waited and waited for her.

but then again all i ever wanted was her happiness.

So.. I gave my best to her everyday that we spent together.

now, all of a sudden, she has a boyfriend..

everything else fell apart for her.

her friends gave up on her,

her college life seems to be going down,

and her dad and sister doesn't like her boyfriend..

i wanted to give me and my best friend some space..

but the thing is.. she doesn't want me to leave..

I did my best to stay.. just for her.. because I don't want to see her life go down..

I supported her all the way even though it hurts..

her boyfriend on the other hand wanted nothing but to hog her time.

it's irritating.

but I can't tell my best friend because it'll look like i'm tryin to break them apart.

right now, i'm creating space between me and her each time we're together..

but whatever i do..

it still hurts not having her..

as sad as it sound, it does..

it's not a poem, it's not a novel.

it's real life.

it's my life with her.. sadly.

Answer 1

those words are spoken so much love it made me cry...(I'm a big baby though lol) it sounds like you love her so much and what your trying to do is so wonderful and your not making it a war between you and her boyfriend and i think you guys will get together eventually because i know she'll notice that you were giving her space and that you not trying to hog her or ting to get him and her to break up which is a really good thing but just try to support her through her tough times if her boyfriend isn't there then help her and give her good advice on things. I'm sure shell appreciate it.

                                                       I Hope I Helped :]

Answer 2

You are doing the right and wrong thing all at the same time. It is right that you are trying little by little to distance yourself with her but you are also hurting yourself for being with her. You can't love someone when you can't love yourself first. If you really love her better love yourself first. Always being with somebody does not mean always being with her even though her boyfriend is around. Being with her means to be their at her lowest time. Try to move on without her or you might loose yourself and end up being bitter in life and will miss to see the other good things in life...

Answer 3

hi....buddy.....i know tat u love Her by ur Heart....u Hve true love for Her...Tats why its ur duty to save her and her heart frm a trap... u know tat the boy frnd she has is not good for her so any how u must save her being trapped tats what u hve to do where ever u keep urseelf 4 her .......both as a lover and a true frnd

if u donot want to seprate her frm her B.F then do it as a frnd........any way u hve to get involved and help her out.......either way if u leave her or if u help her u r gonna hurt both urself and hers.......then why not do her a good deed and get out of her way........as a gal one thing i tel u.....gals donot say frm there mouth but , she had got the same feeling u hve got to her, but donot express bcoz she wznts herself to be right.....u may hve proposed her or talked with her taking the name of ur frndsshp something like " whatever may be ur answr i hve no problm juz our frndshp shld b 4 ever ......."    tats the reason she dint like it.....try one more tim but this time like a fellow who wants her" say yes or leave " tat should be the attitudee ..........bet women like tat kind a men..........

wishes........

kashish

Answer 4

Only falling in love with your best friend is not so d**n hard, but a real love would always be demanding so much and more to the extent of sacrifice.  Moreover, most often it is strengthened more by virtue of a rival popping in because it starts providing you an opportunity of tough competition.  The harder you work, the better you win.  That is good for you, if you try to understand it from my view point.  But sometimes it really hearts when your beloved starts loving someone else, then your love starts shattering and scattering and it becomes very tedious to regather it all over again.  

But whatever you are doing for her is quite fine and keep going with it because that is the only way to make her realize your sincere love for her.  Eventually she will return back to you.  You know the love is like a magnet.  The more stronger it is, the more stronger attraction is has.  Don't you worry, she will certainly be attracted by the strength of your deep love for her.

One thing to keep in mind that material help is a way of expression for love, otherwise it is quite immaterial.  Love is just love and nothing else.  Love, in fact, is invisible and can only become eminently obvious through expressions, both by the best desirable attractive deeds and the most finest verbal communications and along with the deepest sincerity it becomes really more immortal.  Never be disappointed.  Strive hard and you will win.  Don't just let it go with the wind.

Wish you all the best and every success in your love.  So long.