How come how come?

Question

This year, I will be turning seventeen, and I just moved to a new school. I dress well, I honestly don't look too bad, and I'm pretty nice. I find it hard to make friends since everyone had already established their social circle. I was always a shy boy and whenever I try to talk and make friends, it doesn't turn out right. We are now 2 weeks into school and i want to make friends. I feel lonely, and sad, whenever we have to get into a group it is always me that is left out, I feel embarrassed to the point where I skip my classes because we have group activity. I want to introduce myself and get to know others, but obviously it is a little too late, and already people think I'm a loner. I don't act naturally around girls, and the girl that sits beside me in one of my class think I'm weird because I never talk, I don't know what to talk about or how. Whenever I talk to other guys, the act like they don't to be friends. I need help, this is affecting my academic life and I feel sad =(

Answer 1

I was in the same situation as you last year. I'm 16 and turning 17 in july. Last year I switched from a small school to a school quadrupal the size. It was very hard for me too, i'm very shy. But, then I got sick of always having to be a loner. I then started asking people questions like.. So, do you work anywhere? Or if somebody is talking about a movie or a show, join in and give your opinions on that show. It's very hard to work up the confidence I know. Just try to feel more comfortable with yourself. If you accept yourself a little more then people will start seeing your confidence and they will try talking to you.

Also, raise your hand more in classes or make friends with the teacher.. That helps.

Hope I helped and good luck.

Answer 2

Be the flame, not the moth.

Answer 3

What you are going through must be repeated a million times a day for other people in your age group, so it might not be much consolation, but you're not alone.

Try finding something about the other person that you have in common with them.   Or failing that, just ask "How are you?"  or "Did you have any trouble with last night's { homework | test question | getting through the snow drifts on the way to school } ?"    

I used to be the class clown, but that takes a special determination and fearlessness (of teachers) that you might not be willing to muster up.