How come i'm always dating non-Christians?

Question

i consider myself a good Christian, not the best, but I am one. It seems like I'm really really attracted to these dark, pierced, tattooed types though. I myself have piercings and such but these guys I see, and I'm not judging these guys by their appearance but my family is always giving me grief about the way the guys I bring home look. Is it weird that I'm attracted to these non-believers? I've never dated a guy who was a Christian. I sometimes feel bad for dating these atheists but I'm so attracted to them, I don't know what to do

Answer 1

cause us godless heathens are just that awesome

Answer 2

no such thing as a dating ministry... you're mixing God's work for you with pleasure. this is to enlarge and broaden you, that you should overcome attraction for the sake of salvation. give it time, God will deliver... in the mean time, you deliver.

Answer 3

Like the first answerer said, Christians don't know how to f*ck... They never get to practice and for some reason praying doesn't help... hmmm

Answer 4

Well, that often happens. But you can't really fight who you are attracted to. What you can do, is find a believer that has the look that you like. There a biker church where all the members are bikers and have tattoos but they are firm believers. Just an example

Answer 5

  My advice is this...if you start dating Christians you might find one that will be true blue to you and will treat you like a woman.

  If you date these pierced-tatooed types you are going to get dumped on. Besides the heartaches you will end up going through you will be missing the chance to share your Christian beliefs with a fellow Christian. In other words you might pray and study together.

Answer 6

Well honestly - I've dated both Christians and non-Christians (used to be a Christian myself). On the whole, with some exceptions, the non-Christian guys treated me better. Go figure.

Answer 7

TRoll alert

we cant know your thoughts...

Answer 8

The Q is thus asked, 'Are you in fact a true born again saint of God'?

A born again and righteous saint separates himself or herself from the ungodly. So I doubt it very much if you were ever born again, for your actions are the fruit on your tree.

Answer 9

No offense to any Christian men here, but in MY experience Christian men tend to be really clean-cut and smarmy. Maybe you just don't like clean-cut dudes.

Answer 10

Pray about it. Have you tried that?

Answer 11

I probably don't have an answer for you, but I'm going to comment on something I've seen for a long time, and it seems to transcend generations.

Since I was in junior high, I've seen really gorgeous women dating guys who seemed to be of a lower stratum. These losers were beneath these girls, yet they were attracted to them.

Why? Was it because they found the bad nature secretly very sexually arousing? Was it because they unconsciously believed that this was all they deserved? Was it a way of rebelling against their parents and all their upbringing stood for?

If you can answer that question, you'll no longer be bound to this compulsion to date losers. (OK, you may not want to call them that now, but in a few years, you likely will agree, but anyway...)

Here is my actual suggestion:

Get two sheets of paper.At the top of one, write "men I date." At the top of the other paper, write "Christian men"

Now under the title, on both sheets, you make two columns (just draw a line down the middle of the page to separate them)

The column on the right, of each paper, you write "Good Points," and at the top of the other column, "Bad Points."

Now you get yourself to a private, quiet place, and start writing. Write the good points of people you date, the bad points of Christian men, etc, putting each idea in the proper column. Do not try to force an idea, and you don't need to stick with one column. Just write down what comes to mind. To save space, I suggest you use one or two words to sum up each point. If you fill up half the page with an explanation of what you mean, that defeats the whole purpose of the exercise.

So you eventually will have a list of positive and negative qualities for each of the two types of people. You should be able to see what is going on from these lists or these sequences of

Two tips.

1. Don't look back at the sheet as you are writing. Don't say something is positive unless YOU truly think it is positive. It's only what you think that counts.

2. Don't try to write more for one column or another because it is short. Accept that and don't try to finagle it. Just write the points down as they come to you. It works best if you don't try to write the "correct" answer. that totally defeats the purpose of the thing.

Answer 12

Do you have your doubts, too?  Maybe you lean toward non-belief, but you're not allowing yourself to question your beliefs.  It could be that you are seeking these people out because subconsciously you identify with their atheism.

Or maybe you just like bad boys, and in your mind, atheism is a part of that image.

Answer 13

Speaking for myself, I did the same thing (except in my case, it was women, but you get the idea), and I did it because I felt that it was my "duty" to "save" them.  Christians are already saved; it's the non-Christians who need Christ.

But we do not have any obligation to "save" anyone.  Nor do we really have any obligation to lead them to Christ.  I'm not saying that you CAN'T invite someone to church, or witness to them; all I'm saying is that it is not a "Christian duty" in any way.  The false teaching about the Great Commission, and telling Christians that it is their duty to spread the Gospel, is the main reason for all of the trouble amongst religions - atheists included.

You know how Jesus led people to Him?  BY EXAMPLE.  Live your life as a Christian, and, God willing, people who are seriously ready to hear about Jesus will come to you and ask you what makes you such a loveable person.  They will WANT what you have - not because you tried to force it on them, but because you simply live what you believe, and make them want it, too.

Sorry for the speech, but that's why I think that you go for the type of people that you describe.  It's not weird that this is the type of person who attracts you; that's just the way it is.

On the other hand: I say date who you want, and try not to care about what other people say about the dates that you bring home.  Appearance is very superficial, as you obviously well know; just as obviously, though, your family just does not get this.

You have no need to feel bad about dating anyone, for you have no "duty" to only date Christians.  Having said that, though: Just remember people like King Solomon; he was OK with his faith until he started marrying people of other faiths - or no faith at all.  And all they did was make him forsake his own.

On that note: While it's not weird in any way, it could be dangerous for you as a Christian; the results of your efforts to "save" the atheist may very well be the loss of your own faith, while not "saving" his.

Answer 14

its cuz atheists **** the best

Answer 15

It is what Satan does so that you would come involved with one of them. Its to get your mind and life off of Jesus. Try going to groups your age  in churches  to meet someone of the faith. Man loves darkness. but there are consequences. Stop before its to late. God does not strive with man forever.  

Answer 16

You're dating atheists because they are your "type" (I'm not saying that you are an atheist) and because we really aren't that bad.

It would be nice if other christians were a little bit more open minded and accepting.

I don't think that there is any reason why you should label a person according to their beliefs - rather as whether they are tolerant and easy to get along with and that you have something in common.

If you want to keep your b/f's though - I suggest that you don't ever preach to them or try to convert them because that's just like slamming a door in their face - although he might be more than willing to debate you

Atheist

Answer 17

Not only did the cruel Romans design Crucifixion, they also designed a very cruel way to punish murderers. They would attach the dead body of the murdered one to the body of the murderer in such a way that he could not extricate himself from it. The decaying body would eventually kill him.

   In being bound in relationships to unbelievers you are subjecting yourself to slow spiritual death. Even pastors both male and female have completely lost their ministries and testimonies by not heeding the warning in the scriptures to not be bound (e.g. romantic) in relationships to unbelievers

Answer 18

Make better choices

Answer 19

Date who you're attracted to. Don't just date someone because they're a Christian.  

Answer 20

Cuz atheist know how to make it scream