How come in S&M-black women are continuously portrayed..?

Question

as BBW's or dominatrixes? I would consider myself a sub, but I think it would be difficult to find partners who are Doms that like the idea of a black female submissive? What do you think?

Answer 1

simple in the S&M there are more sub's than dom's.

     By and large the vast majority of the community is caucasian.

  Black dominants would stand out more than black sub's in such a culture.

Answer 2

They are PORTRAYED....this doesn't necessarily make it reality.  I am sure there are many, many men who would find a woman such as yourself to be desirable.

Answer 3

I don't think it would be difficult at all. I have met black women in the past who considered themselves sub and it never really seemed like a big issue, h**l it might make it even easier to find a dom partner because this portrayal you mentioned makes it seem like there not many women of your background who are sub, therefore you should be in high demand as one of the few.

Answer 4

I'm on the scene in the 5th largest city in the US. I see about a 50/50 split between Black women as subs or dommes. I don't know where you are from, but here there is plenty of interest in Black female subs. Don't sell short your appeal.

Answer 5

I haven't noticed that stereotype myself, but I haven't really been looking for it either.  I think the dynamics of Dom/sub relationships are complex enough that people aren't going to get hung on stereotypes.  Finding the right partner is difficult enough as it is.

Answer 6

It's easier than you think.  I'm sure you can find a dom who wants to act out some slave fantasy.  I prefer Kizzie over slvt... just don't get your foot chopped off.  Have at it!

Answer 7

I occasionally date a photographer who specializes in D/S art, coffee table type books of gorgeous, extraordinarily sublime subjects.  I have seen what you are speaking about, except there is a fairly popular fantasy sub role of Black woman played as a Civil War slave.  I wonder if the white male-dominated s*x industry and men in general aren't just a bit queasy of sending the message, especially directly to a Black woman whom they like that slavery of Blacks is somehow "pleasurable".  Many white men have only in the last few generations risen defiantely above their family's racism and are proud of that honorable rise.  I think Black women who want to explore sub sexual roles especially with white men should lead the way and separate all those confusing issues for the man to clear the way and conscience for the fantasy.  I dated a sexually sophisticated man from South Africa whom I eventually dumped specifically because he was racist and even he brought this up in a conversation once, not that it's "politically incorrect" but that it makes men associate the REALITY of what happened to Black women just a few generations ago with the s*x fantasy too closely, and, of course, that ruins fantasy s*x.