How come my late friend doesn't come to me in dreams anymore?

Question

My late friend came to me in a dream before I knew he had died & thats how I found out he had died cuz I had lost touch w/ him & looked his name up online & found his obit cuz in the dream his face looked messed up . I only had one other dream of him visiting me & haven't had any since. He died last summer in a car crash. Do you think its cause the 1st dream was meant to be closure & do you think he will ever visit me again?

Answer 1

You're really lucky that you had the time with him that you did after he died.

Edit..Just want to say that I'm  sorry you lost your friend. I wonder how he knew that you didn't know he had died. That was good of him to let you know. He must have wanted you to know. Maybe he didn't want someone else to tell you. Sometimes, people have families who go around telling the friends of the one who had died that they had died...rather than letting them see it in the newspaper. Maybe they forgot about you...and so he came to tell you himself. I wish I could say that he's speaking through me to tell you this...but I can't. I'm just guessing.

Answer 2

this is very common, when some one dies, to let the living person know they have departed..it would of been closure for him....whether he ever comes back to visit you or not, is anyones guess...

Ive had a couple of friends come to me, when they passed away before i got the news.....and that was the last i saw of them...but thats not to say they will never pop in again in the future....

Answer 3

THIS IS WHAT I DO WHEN I NEED, OR WANT TO CONTACT SOMEONE ON THE OTHER SIDE..

WHILE COMFY IN BED START THING TO YOURSELF..

EXAMPLE:  THERE NAME  COME TO ME I MISS YOU...

AND JUST REPEAT THAT UNTIL YOU FALL ASLEEP...

AN TRY TO CONTINUE AFTER A FALL ASLEEP,

BELIEVE ME ITS HARD TO DO...

AND ASK THEM TO COME TO YOU NOW.....

YOU HAVE TO SAY NOW.. BECAUSE 1 MONTH TO US IS LIKE 1 MINUTE TO THE OTHER SIDE...SO ALWAYS BE SPECIFIC

LET ME KNOW IF THIS HELP YOU...

NO I DON'T FEEL THAT FIRST DREAM WAS MEANT AS A CLOSURE.... AN YES HE  WILL VISIT YOU AGAIN... DON'T YOU FEEL HIS PRESENTS AROUND YOU NOW???

SILVERWOLFWON

AKA

MOM

Answer 4

ESP, put it to good use.

Answer 5

Sometimes these things are once-in-a-lifetime messages.  One message is all it took to get you to look, but now your friend is done with that, any further messages would only come if you needed them, not wanted them.  Closure perhaps.

He can see you anytime he wants to, I think.  But there is no need to now - he's dead, you're alive, so keep in touch with the living.

Answer 6

The first dream was to inform you that your friend is about to go. It's like a formal way of saying goodbye to someone whom he considers an important part of his life. The second dream of him visiting you is to let you know that he had accepted his accidental death peacefully and is perhaps checking how you felt having lost him in that manner. Perhaps knowing that you have also accepted his loss in a peaceful and possitive way, he felt that there's no more reason for him to remain in our world to attend to unsettled business. That means he is now in the proper resting place where he should be.

Answer 7

Because you are focused on what you lost rather than his saying goodbye and telling you he is OK. He does not want to disrupt your life and take you away from doing what you need to do to get out of your situation. Meditate on him and let him know you won't focus too much on him and he will come back.

Answer 8

So sorry.... sounds like closure, unless you were tuning in by thought. They usually come when the prayers are of concerning about them, they come to let you know that they are okay and in a good places. They are concern that you are concern. So depending if you want to see them again, depends on your concern prayers.

Answer 9

It might have been closure, maybe wanting to tell you goodbye. He probably just wanted you to know he was okay.

He may return if you would need him, but that is kind of selfish on your part, to want him to, nothing personal. You should just let him go, he is at peace, with God.

I am sorry to hear of your friend passing, I will will say a little prayer for you and him tonight.

Answer 10

I am sorry you lost your friend in a car crash.  That is a difficult wound to heal from.  I lost my dad to a heart attack when I was 21, and I know the pain.  I also know the joy of seeing him many times in the dream realm.  You have gotten to see your friend twice so far in your dreams.  Who know how many times this will be repeated?

I don't think the first time was for closure.  I think he will probably visit you again.  I view this as seeming random to us, but always possible, and mostly when we aren't expecting it to happen, or trying to make it come.

I think our minds are full of so many things (thoughts) at once.  Most of them are small, like the grains of sand on a beach; some are larger, like pebbles; and some are huge, like stones the size of basketballs.  When we go to sleep, our minds are still active and bring up these thoughts to dream upon.  The mind usually settles on the "basketballs" to dream upon, but sometimes the "pebbles", and sometimes, even the "grains of sand".  The more time passes between your friend's death and the present, the "smaller" that thought will be, and the less chance there will be that it occurs in a dream.

But, you never know when.  I still dream of my dad, and it has been thirty years since he has died.

Blessings.

Answer 11

i realy dontthink he will come to you in a dream again i think that he wanted you to know that he has moved on to a better place and now that you have i think its closed like my father got to see his mother in a dream after wards she is in heaven now and wont return to the earth to be in his dreames if therewas somthing noww that was critical for you to know before it hapens mabe but unlikly

Answer 12

dreams are just a result of the thoughts in your mind throughout the day. if you think about him enough, you will dream about him.

Answer 13

As others have already said, I am so sorry for your loss and also for the fact that you had to find out about it the way you did.

     If you are not familiar with dealing with the spirit world, I would personally not recommend you asking him to come to you.  When you open yourself up to that realm, you are opening yourself up not only to the person you wish to enter; but to the entire spirit world itself.  That can be quite overpowering and overwhelming to a novice.

     It is also my personal belief that you cannot summon any particular spirit "on command".  Since it is an entirely different dimension it may or may not be possible for contact to take place in your time frame.

     I understand your frustration and your desire for more contact from him.  Until it comes naturally (and I hope it does come again), remember him as much as possible and focus on the good times you had together.  If you draw, make art about places you were.  If you write, journal about him. These are things that will bring you closer to him.  Bright Blessings ~D