How come no one has values anymore?

Question

I feel like everyone is sleeping around. Isn't it better to stick with one partner, and know you can rely on them no matter what, and they won't walk away on you when things get though. Not that I like preaching about values, if anything I'm a liberal from political perspective. How can I possibly find a girl with good morals these days? Especially considering that I'm in my mid 20-s.

Answer 1

No sympathy here.  Wake up.  Where have you been?  Your parents failed you.  They were wimps and you were a spoiled whiney brat.  They got tired quickly of putting up with your BS.  It was easier to just quit parenting and give you whatever you wanted.   Now ur crying because all the women are you find are cheap.  You don't want to have to work at finding a real relationship.  Why not call your parents and ask for a girlfriend for Xmas.  This is the world you asked for.   Nobody's going to sympathize.  

Answer 2

The problem is that values change, sometimes for the better and sometimes not. There are still people out there with "good morals" I know a few, I'd like to think I am one and I am your age. Don't give up just yet.  

Answer 3

Its because we live in a disposable society,we have sold our souls to instant gratification,it is much easier to cheat or divorce than it is to work on a marriage,honor and loyalty are gone.

Answer 4

I think that a lot of people DON'T believe their partner will stick with them no matter what and they won't walk away.  And personally, I think that part of the reason for that is people waiting so much longer to get married.  They open themselves up, they get hurt, so the next relationship they have, they open up less.  By the time they get to their late 20's or early 30's, they've been hurt so many times that they no longer give all of themselves to another person as a way to try and minimize the pain.  Personally, I was 18 when I met the man who is my husband.  At 30 I look back and wonder what I knew at 18, but we've been together this whole time and I do trust him with my whole self.  We have grown together, and trust each other, which doesn't make us conservative, just who we are.

Answer 5

Hey now...Some of us are true to our word,

I was married 24 yrs when HE cheated & left me for HER.

I never once cheated....

F*ck him, I am SOOOOO happier now,

Answer 6

i have values.  my husband has values.  Europeans are more "free" with their sexuality, which is scary as h**l.  it's nasty.  that's why i married someone from the US.  

you'll find someone.  you're still young.  calm down.

Answer 7

I agree. Its seems like more and more people are having s*x just to have s*x. There not thinking of the repercussions sleeping around has. When u meet a girl ask about past relationships, dont ask hey how many people have u slept with. Just get an idea on her relationship background with other guys and u might find out answer. There are still girls out there with morals.

Answer 8

Well the day they decide to teach the idea that 's*x is a responsibility', will be a day that maybe 20% of the relationships will actually WORK.  

There are people who still maintain some sort of value, but you have to realize there are a lot of selfish people who want the cake and eat it too, so they won't leave what they have because they enjoy it, but they also want that fling cause they CON themselves into thinking 'i'm being neglected somehow, he/she's hot...i need that too..'

I, my grandparents, my family, and a few friends STILL maintain marital values in this slowly corrupted society.  I don't see where people get off hurting others for their own pleasure.  It's like the world slowly believe people owe them sh*t or they just DESERVE whatever their mind or eyes desire, and completely lost the idea you have to WORK at something to really deserve it.

It's really sad.

Answer 9

Where in a deposible world something not working right throw it away and find someone new.  People want the perfect mate now!  They dont want to work for it.  People are fukkked now a days

Answer 10

I'm from Argentina, I have a green card. I admit I was dating my hubby and I loved him, but the sole purpose of our marriage was so he could stay in the US.

I have no intentions of divorce, we are very compatible. Yes, we face obstacles.

Divorce in Japan is very low, they believe divorce is something you should be ashamed of. I know he has no intention of leaving me.

We share a seven month old son, so neither of us is going anywhere.

Answer 11

You must be looking in the wrong places and at the wrong girls.  There are lots of good ones out there.

Answer 12

An honest marriage starts w/two honest people.  I don't think enough people look at the moral values of their potential life partner.  Right from the beginning we let things slide that we don't agree w/and we know aren't moralistically right.  Even if you look at the government at least in the US, it used to be solely based on moralistic behavior and even our government is lacking in moral value anymore.  Your best bet to find a good honest soul mate is to meet her in church.  I'm not saying that every person who goes to a bar or parties is a bad person, I met my husband in a bar and we've been together 14 yrs and 4 children.  Neither one of us cheats and no matter what we have each others backs.  I trust him w/anything and he trusts me but in the same respect you can almost never tell someone how you truly feel without them walking away.  Forgiveness and trust are of the utmost importance in a marriage in my opinion.

Answer 13

Hi Lickers,  Most people do have values but feel they can mess around before they get married.  If you make your standards clear from the start about how you see values in marriage should be you will attract and keep the right girl.  I must say that when I saw your "name" I thought that your may be putting out the wrong impression and attacting the type of people that you say you are not interested in.  It is only by working on yourself that you will tap into the natural laws of attraction.  Good Luck.

Answer 14

I agree...don't change the way you look at this issue, because there are very few guys like you out there, and when you find a good girl, you will have the perfect recipe for a long, happy marriage!

Answer 15

You are amazing! Seriously!!

At first, I thought it was a female writing this (sorry lol) only because I share similar opinions/outlooks as you do. I find it's rare for a guy nowadays to feel the way you do about this!

I am also in my mid twenties, and am Liberal (Canadian)

Good to know there are still some "good" guys out there :)

Answer 16

cause the @sswhole who came up with the idea of marrige and "until death do you part" did that when life expectancy was like 30 years old..   now it's like 85!  

he's laughing in his grave right now.. ...  

Answer 17

I am 25 also...happily married.  Both of our parents have been married 30 years or more, we were both fairly inexperienced sexually and believe in fairly liberally as well.  We are out there..sadly for you I am already taken...but I am sure there are plenty more of us.  But you will not find them in bars.

Answer 18

Since so much of behavior is learned, how can people learn what is not taught?