How come people always want you to go to them but they will never come to you?

Question

What is up with that..friends, family, meet me over here. People offer to pay your plane ticket but never get on a plane themselves. What in the world is wrong with people. Its okay for you to be personal but heaven forbid we ask them to be personal as well.

Any insight?

Answer 1

IF you left your home town area and YOU left your family and friends to move away then I do think it is your responsibility to visit your home town!  

As for friends and family who have moved multiple times and are not in your original home town then yes you are right!  Those people need to come and visit you too!  It should be 50 50 !

Answer 2

the in-laws are like that they visit a few times when they needed a place to stay while traveling to visit some place else.  We pack up and go there use to be 2 to 3 times a year now i told the wife only once will i go there and maybe not then.  But what's funny is when they do visit because they need a place to stay they say you know the road goes both ways.  i just ignore them that's all you can do is ignore them.

Answer 3

This question really hit home for me. I live in a different state then the rest of my family...about 3 hours away from everyone. I ALWAYS go down there with the kids to see my mom, my sisters and everyone else who is having some kind of get together that day. It takes me 6 hours of travel time to get there and back, but i do it. BUT if I ask my mom to come up and see the kids she grumbles about how far it is and how I know my father doesn't like going too far...blah, blah, blah.....

I tell her how it's always me going down to see everyone and nobody ever comes to visit me...it's not fair. I told my husband I was going to boycott all family functions because it can't be just 1 sided. If i can travel with 3 kids in tow they can get off their lazy a$ses to come see me too.

Answer 4

my family is the SAME way, anytime we talk to them on the phone, they always ask when we're going to come visit them but we can never get them to come visit us! i think it might be that they feel more comfortable in their own place. i know i do :]