How come they don't adopt?

Question

I know a few couples who have medical reasons why they can't have kids and they want kids. My aunt and uncle have one child but it was hard for them to get pregnant. They were married 10 years before a kid. They used to talk about it all the time how they wanted a child. It's like adoption doesn't exist to them didn't even cross their mind. I don't understand this because I don't have a medical reason (that I know of) why I can't have kids but I want to adopt because of all the children in different countries who are starving. Yes, I know there are people who can't have kids and do adopt. I know a one couple with 2 adopted children. It's really hard for me to understand this and why people won't adopt

Answer 1

Adoption is very expensive.  Most people can't afford the fees.  The average cost nowadays is $20,000!

Answer 2

It is so sad but they make it so hard to adopt these days.  The government should offer adoption assistance, I think then we would have a lot more children in homes.  It costs about 25000 in paper work to adopt a child.  And up to 7 years of waiting.  Its a horrible process.

Answer 3

Some people just don't feel like that kid could be their own if it is not their flesh and blood.  Its sad but true, a lot of people have told me that.  And money it is very expensive in most cases. (I am adopted  and have placed a child for adoption so please do not attack me.)

Answer 4

Maybe they just understand that adoption isn't all sunshine and rainbows and are working to keep families together instead of separating them so THEY can have a child. Adoption should be about finding a home for a child, not finding a child for a home. As for children starving in other countries, don't you think it would be better for the kids to stay with their natural families? Adoption is not cheap, so instead of separating families, why do you give the money that you would spend on an adoption and give it to the natural family so they can have the money to feed the child. $50,000 goes a long way in other countries. Kids are not puppies. I highly suggest that you spend some time on the adoption section of Y!A. I have learned so much and I am sure you would too.

Answer 5

As an adoptee from the U.S. I am deeply offended by Americans who adopt children from overseas. There are children waiting in foster care right now in your state for a forever home. I think we should not adopt children from overseas until we have taken care of all of the American children.

I was adopted as an infant of three weeks, but it might have not been that way. I was adopted through a Catholic agency that also served Protestant parents. There were "Catholic" babies whose mothers were baptized Catholics, and there were "Protestant" babies whose mothers were not baptized Catholics -- so every one else really. If there had not been a "Protestant" family available, I don't know if they would have allowed my biologically "Protestant" self to go to a Catholic family and I may well have had to stay in a foster home until a Protestant family was found.

This was 1971 and I doubt CC can operate that way anymore, but I shudder to think of spending years growing up in a group home just because my bio-mom was Protestant.

Anyway, before you spend thousands of dollars adopting children from overseas, you have a moral obligation to adopt an American child no matter what Angelina Jolie does.

Answer 6

Money - this tends to be a turnoff for most people. It can be very expensive to adopt. The cost ranges around $10,000. Normal middle class or lower class personal don't have this kind of cash lying around.  

Answer 7

to expensive

Answer 8

Money (adopting can be expensive esp. if you want certain features) & bloodline.  I know my husband is obsessed with the idea of having a biological son.  An adopted son just won't cut it.  I'm pregnant with our fifth daughter in six years and he's already talking about the next pregnancy.  It's just really important to some people.

Answer 9

Some people just want biological children. That's usually the biggest factor why most couples don't want to adopt.

Not to mention the fact that adoption is a very time consuming process, and the parents are most likely going to have to have the "you're adopted" talk, which doesn't sound appealing at all.