How come they treat me like I don't belong?

Question

all my friends are really skinny, and a lot of them are gymnasts, and whatever. I am however really curvy and weigh like a lot more then 2 of them put together, and unlike them i actually have to wear a bra. (lol). I feel so unwanted sometimes, and I get really nervous when I eat around them, like I shouldnt eat because I have to look like them. sometimes they don't invite me in everything they do, and i feel terrible, like they are embarrased to be seen with me. I just feel horrible all the time like when they put pics of stuff and sleepovers they did together without me on facebook and stuf. i just know that they like me, but i want to be more into their inner circle. They sometimes ignore me to. Does this mean they want me to leave their group?

Answer 1

Those are signs of wanting you to get out of their life. And don't try to be like them, because it will be very hard, and you won't feel any better after.

Find a new group of friends that accept you, don't ignore you, and are very supporting.

If a "friend" is ignoring you,  they aren't a friend, same thing with lying, leaving you out, and being disrespectful.

And it's okay that you have to wear a bra now, it's a good thing, you are growing.

With real friends, you should feel comfortable, wanted, loved, and cared for. These girls are none of the matches.

Make a list with everyone in your class on it. Go through each person and cross some out. For example,

Jean (crossed out)

John (crossed out)

Alyssa *

This means you think Alyssa could be a good friend. Jean or John could be crossed out for making you feel bad. And Alyssa would be the one who shares, is nice, respects people, etc. I am sure you will find friends when you go through a list.

Hope it Helps!

Answer 2

how can u call them "friends"?  if they are your real friends, how come they treat you that way?  think about it.  would you do that to someone u called a friend?  they are insensitive for posting  these sleepovers online they didn't invite you to.

don't feel insecure about it.  be who you are.  if they don't like you bkz you look different, then forget them.  you deserve better.

Answer 3

They are phony, backstabbers!  Find yourself a genuine friend, you don't need more than one or two!  Anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable about eating or anything else is not worth your time.  Get involved in some activities in school and ignore them!  How dare they ignore you, do you really want to be involved with these player haters?  You have nothing to feel horrible about, they are conceited and shallow!  You will find that out soon enough, but YOU be the one to dis them hun starting right now!  Act like you never even knew them and when one of them asks "what's wrong" just say the truth.  "I'm not stupid and I don't like the way I'm being treated, so bounce"!   Good luck hun, you're gonna do just fine.  Your inner beauty is what is important!  

Answer 4

You sound like you deserve better friends than that anyway.

Answer 5

thats what they do you just need to find real friends who like you 4 who u r   dump them ;)

Answer 6

a suggestion:leave them and find other people to be your TRULY FRIENDS. those girls are not your friends.