How could a man you did everything for, and loved unconditionally, cheat on you?

Question

Why do men take the risk of losing their partners in this way?

Is it because they do not love them?

Answer 1

I love chicken,

but i still eat fish.

And we never take this risk, we just hope you dont find out. Doesnt mean he doesnt love you, just means he has no pride in the relationship.

If you didnt find out then it wouldnt have hurt you. He prob wouldnt have do it if he thort U'd find out. He just did it because he wanted to, thort he could get away with it.

I left work an hour early yesterday because I dont take pride in my work and no one found out. Its the same thing, just on a different scale

Answer 2

Because they don't realise what they have got until they throw it all away.  The grass is not greener on the other side.

Answer 3

Sometimes its nothing to do with love. Men like women are human. Were not gods and were not perfect. We sometimes get things wrong or give into our lusts or desires. Another way to look at it maybe that were here for a short time, worst case scenario, you die and theres nothing. Sometimes people just want a little fun and in drink or whatever, they can forget there promises. Which again, were human it happens. People make mistakes. If its something that can be lived with, forgive. If not, move on. Do whats right for you.

Answer 4

did he go through with it? the reason i ask is unfortuneatly i NEARLY had an affair. when it came time i could not doit as i i realized i love my wife. this was before we married by the way. we had our first child together around this same time and another a year later but as i was getting things straight and PROVING that her and the kids mean the world to me she divorced me. she not only didn't give me the chance to make things rite but she took my kids and i have not been able to talk to them for over two years now. so the case her is did he go through with it? did he care about what happend? if he did and doesn't care then thats your answer, but if he could go all the way and regrets what happend give him that ONE chance before you ruin his life.

Answer 5

Maybe you didn't do as much for him as you thought you did and don't generalize all men as cheaters because they're not.

Answer 6

I think because they don't love you the way you love them or because they get bore with s*x and try to found something new

Answer 7

Because we can, and do. You can't change what we truly are with 200 years of morality.

Answer 8

My wife says there very little chance that I'll write something helpful here.

Sometimes men just crave sexual variety and therefore you can't blame yourself for this. It sounds like your man failed to recognise the value of your love over and above his pleasures elsewhere. What a fool. :(

I am sure he does love you. He just couldn't help himself.

Answer 9

he was dumb. he didnt appreciate what he had there a good guys out there that will treat you right.. he took the risk cause he really didnt care bout you an wanted more an most likely he did not love you despite what he said cause you dont cheat on someone you love  

Answer 10

If you love him unconditionally, surely it's fine?  

Answer 11

I ask myself the same thing. My dad cheated on my mum and ran off with his tart for what? He lost mine and my brothers respect 31 years ago when he did this. His loss.

Answer 12

This is the third question I have answered of yours, you really need to take a good hard look at yourself and stop wallowing in self pity.

The man cheated on you, and thats all there is to it.

If you want to persecute yourself then go ahead, some people need this as a comfort blanket, you should let go.

He was not the one for you and you have to accept it, if you dont you will be a victim all your life.

You have a lot to give and you just happen to have given it to the wrong man.

Face it and move on.

Answer 13

Mostly because, they dont feel love anymore or they attracted to another woman. Or they dont want to get attached and still want to be single. Some of them think that they thought we are not the right girls to spend their lifes with.

The other opinion was right. They're stupid creature. No heart!!

Answer 14

Because he was thinking with the wrong part of his anatomy, because he didn't think he'd get caught, because she looked good & he wanted something new, because he needed to feel younger & free again, because he could....but mostly because he didn't appreciate what he had until AFTER he did something that could cause him to lose you forever. Idiots, aren't they?? Be strong! Good luck!

Answer 15

He got caught up in the moment. Don't take it personally, but use this as a good reason to leave him knowing you can do better. If it wasn't for him cheating, there would have been other holes in the relatioship. Now you know positively that he is not the one for you.  

Answer 16

he sound like a very selfish man. he was not going to be happy no matter what he just wonted to keep his d**k wet no matter who he hurt.

Answer 17

I do not think it is a question of love to be honest with you, I just think that giving them everything they want makes their life not exciting enough, i am not sticking up for men, and i can understand that you're hurt and in no way am i suggesting it is our fault for the idiot who cheated on you.

Answer 18

Because he could... I think that there is something wrong in the relationship for them to go looking else where. If 100% happy why would you risk losing it...

Love is a word used far too easily!!! People rush in get married then meet sum1 else who presses the right buttons. You have to remember this wont be the first ever female hes met...! At the end of the day dont degrade youself by staying with him give yourselves BOTH the chance to find a partner who treats them right.

I cant understand why women stay with men who have cheated...yes I hear you...you love him...but he doesnt love you, and even if hes frightened of future without you coz your comfortable...be strong, move on....

HE'LL DO IT AGAIN...AFTER ALL YOU'LL GIVE HIM PERMISSION !!!

Answer 19

It happens to all of us they either cheat on us or dump us saying its not you its me but you know its the other way round they don't take a risk they think there the higher species and think they can get away with everything at least that what i assume its happened to me twice no i dont think i can ever love for a while  

Answer 20

coz men cant keep there d**k in there pants....

men thease days have no respect for women!!!

just make sure u respect urself... kick that konb to the curb

girlfriend!!! and make sure u tell him he will regret losin the best thing that ever happened to him!!!!

good luck x

Answer 21

Could be because your partner found a better-looking partner than you, MAYBE. It could also be that you did EVERYTHING to a point to which he think you're obsessed with him. Maybe he lost interest in you.  

Answer 22

sometimes they feel trapped or scared in a relationship... n also they dont know at they got til its gone..thier loss!

women can cheat too tho!

Answer 23

Move on honey. He is a pig and u r saved. He will come crawling after some months. The question is do u want him back?

Telling you from my exp.

I did take him back, he didnt change. So kicked him out.

Answer 24

Its because he had the opportunity!!!  It doesnt matter, if u r 100% in every way.  At the end of the day he's a bloke and if the opportunity arises... he'll take it.  Its sad.  My motto is "fall in love... but never be blind"

Answer 25

anyone can cheat..we are only human, and temptation sucks some people in easier than others. I personally believe once a cheater, always a cheater, and if they are not strong enough to resist the temptation of another woman or man..they are not strong enough for a relationship.

As for the love aspect...s*x is NOT love, and you can not confuse the two. A man may LOVE his partner with all his heart, yet sleep with other women. Its no excuse, but ask a cheater that goes back to his partner, and he will usually say its because he loves her. He musnt respect her at all....but he loves her...sometimes..just loving someone..just aint enough.

Answer 26

It is because they do not think they will be caught.

Men are rather craven animals. Some just want the s*x, so s*x with the other woman is not the same as s*x with you, but he's still parking his buick in another person's garage

Answer 27

I don't think it's because they don't love their partners. I think some people are just wired differently and with men, recreational cheating is too hard to resist.  I think men are better at separating love and s*x and even though they know it is wrong, if some men think they can get away with it, some men do.  If you have a serial cheater, it's best to cut your losses and move on.  The chances of them changing are remote.

Answer 28

For some reason, everything you did still was not enough to satisfy him.  This is not your fault.  Apparently he wants his cake and eat it too.  Some people do not know how to be faithful and your unconditional love, should not stand for his conditional behavior. If you give him another chances or a few chances, then no matter what you say or do, his behavior will continue.  It may slow him down for a while, but unfortunately, he will continue to cheat.  Maybe this guy is not the right one for you, as evident by his actions.  If you love yourself first, you will want the best for yourself and cut him loose before you end up with some incurable diseases, HIV & AIDs kill.  They can not be cured with a simple" i'm sorry I won't do it again". Please demand respect and make him (and all men) respect you!   Sorry he broke your heart.

Answer 29

When a man cheats on a good woman he has some messed up morals and lacks respect for himself and you. It's a personal problem that he chose not to control and walk away from but he did not want to. When a person truly is in love with someone they cannot even think of hurting you and putting you through this grief and change your feelings of security and feeling safe with them. If they can feel bad about cheating on you after they do it then it tells you that they can think about not acing out against you and the marriage before hand. When a spouse crosses this kind of line against everything they have with you the trust is broken and things will never feel the same with them again. It's horrible when you cannot count on the most important part of your relationship with someone and they share your intimacy with someone else. They not only risk everything that you have with them but they risk your health and life to a possible life threatening disease to and that is unacceptable. Loving the cheater or not does not mean that you can go on living with them and tollerate their selfishness and abuse. There is no excuse in the world that they can hand you to ever make it right and make it go away because it will be in your heart and mind forever.  

Answer 30

i think that its not just men, women do it to and if we knew the answer we would be rich.I personally think it means they don't love you in the right way a strong love gets tempted too but they resist.When you love someone the right way you don't want to hurt that person like that and if you don't and want to cheat for goodness sake leave that person and scrog away its weak to cheat on someone it means you don't have the bullocks to be on your own.Good luck

Answer 31

Ouch!  The pain takes some getting over that is for sure.

I think generally (and I know I am probably going to get stick for this), s*x to men does not hold the meaning that it does to a woman. In HIS head, it was probably just 's*x'. The consequences when he got found out probably didn't enter his mind.

I am NOT sticking up for him, but the way you feel for him, doing everything for him, loving him unconditionally etc was his life.  He did not think of losing this when he was unfaithful (as he probably never thought he would be found out).  Now he has had to face up to what he has done, he will probably realise how foolish and stupid it was and also just how pointless having 's*x' is when it can totally destroy  lives for a moment of madness.

As far as your life goes, you will go through every emotion humanly possible but DO  NOT blame yourself.  I don't think it is right to tell you what to do, simply because all of the circumstances are not known, however, if my husband cheated on me, there would never be another chance.

Good luck.

:)